- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY
So I think this is the most appropriate place to post about this…
Let me just say I hate drama.
In another thread, I posted about my best friend of 27 years dating a guy who is a slimeball.
Six months in the relatioship he has her move in with him, a week later he proposes (total shock to her, but she said yes) and then a month later she finds out she’s pregnant, even though he told her from the start he couldn’t have any more children because a car accident (he has two sons from another relationship who he does not have custody of, she has one daughter from her last relationship.)
I am just starting to feel horrible for her. Things are getting messy with her ex and she is trying will all her might to not have to file for child support, but is having financial difficulty and her ex is not helping as much as he should be. I know she is happy to be pregnant, but I think deep down she must feel trapped. She is not the type to romanticize things, and was never the little girl dreaming of her wedding, so I don’t think she would want to rush into things like this guy has been. I’m sure she was thinking of this as a rebound. But now she’s pretty much trapped, and this guy is much more manipulating and controlling than most men, and I think he is sort of doing a brain washing trick on her.
Well, I got a call from my brother today who still lives in the town where I grew up, and where my best friend is from too. His friend saw my bf’s fiance in a bar there in September with another girl. He said they were definitely not just friends, if you catch my drift.
Any other time, I would have told any friend of mine what I heard. What makes this situation difficult in that respect is that she knows I do not like this guy, and he knows I don’t like him. In fact, I think he has been trying to pull her away from me. IF I were to say something, she might assume I was making it up, and he would definitely say that.
She has two older brothers who have not told her how they feel about him yet, who are also friends with my brother, and the guy who saw this happening. I think maybe they should tell her? I don’t know what to do. This is my best friend and I can’t have this happen to her without her knowing… I feel horrible. As much as I don’t think she should be with this guy, it is in her and her baby’s best interest now that hey have a good relationship. I don’t want her to be a single mother with children from two different fathers…