(Closed) Heard a Rumor my Best Friend is Being Cheated On…

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Both. You tell her, and suggest to your brother that he tells her brothers. (Assuming your brother is 100% sure he’s right).

p.s. If he is a slimeball, I disagree that it’s better for her to stay in a relationship with him. Yes I think she’s better being a single mum with 2 different fathers, making sure both pay child support.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

@Jilliebean1:  what a rough situation. Maybe the people that saw him with the other girl should tell her? Either way, I think she will shoot the messenger. She may not believe it, she will blame whoever has told her. I have a friend whose former best friend tried to tell her that her boyfriend was cheating, unbelievably, she saw her friend as responsible for trying to break them up and they didn’t talk for years. Thankfully, she came to her senses and eventually ended things with him, and managed to salvage a friendship with her friend. 

I guess a good way of looking at it, it you were in her situation, would you want to know? Someone should make her aware, and what she chooses to do with that information is up to her. If it comes from you, knowing how you feel about him, she may think it’s just a ploy to split them up. There is no easy solution to this, but I hope it all works out for the best.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Jilliebean1:  this “cheating” happened 3 months ago.  why has no one discussed this with her?  when did she get pregnant?  could have this been prevented if someone had said something sooner?

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Jilliebean1:  i wish her the best and i do hope that someone tells her immediately.  she deserves to know.  perhaps her brothers can tell her.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Jilliebean1:  Oh I misread. I thought it was your brother, not your brother’s friend. That makes you a 3rd hand witness.

Nevertheless I think it is your duty as a friend to tell her. Obviously tell her it was 3rd hand, but still I think you should tell her what you know.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Jilliebean1:  is your brother close enough with her to tell her? or to ask her brothers to tell her?  If you think she’ll believe you, I say tell her and let her know you wanted her to know the truth whether she believes you or not and you’ll be there for her whatever her decision.  Definitely do not tell her in a “see I told you he’s a douche bag” kind of way.  If you’re pretty sure she’ll think you’re saying it because you think he’s a loser, I say enlist the brothers for help.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Jilliebean1:  oh I totally didn’t mean that you would love saying that at all, i just think that it’s hard in your spot knowing he’s a jerk to say it without saying something with your tone.  I didn’t for a second think or mean that you were happy about it or would do it on purpose.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Jilliebean1:  I think if her brothers haven’t yet told her he’s a dink, they’re your best bet.

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