(Closed) Heart Broken Bee

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
Member
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

🙁 I would feel so hurt and cry my eyes out. I’m so so so so so sorry that he did that. 

Post # 33
Member
263 posts
Helper bee

Omg I would be devistated and hurt… I’m sooooo sorry that happened to you 🙁

Post # 34
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941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ScienceGeekgirl:  omg… that is terrible. just terrible.

I would walk..dont let him play you like that. hugs bee.

Post # 36
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@ScienceGeekgirl:  Seriously, I’ve dealt with a man who was a commitment-phobe so I hope that you did not tell him that he has 6 months.  Otherwise, if you told him then you are effectively giving him an ultimatum, which will make him feel the pressure growing month after month.  If he does propose within that time you still won’t know whether it was because he was ready or because of the deadline.

In today’s technological world it does not take forever to take your name off of bills and bank accounts.  Property does take longer and has to have his consent but you two can still share the financial responsibility for that without being romantically involved.

If you truly trust the sincerity of his desire to marry you, just go with the flow and if things don’t turn out the way you want just go ahead and leave on your own unannounced internal deadline.  That involves you taking charge of your own life and not giving him the power in the relationship.  Best of luck.

Post # 37
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394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@ScienceGeekgirl:  if you’re happy otherwise, then stay. 

But if you’re simply staying because “leaving is easier said than done”, I have to say that’s bullshit. It may be easier said than done but it’s also not as hard as you can imagine. Sharing bank accounts? That’s a visit to the bank to get sorted. What kind of bills? You can usually call them and get that take care of too. Property? Well, what kind? 

If you want to stay because you love him, and still do despite this dick move then stay. But if it just seems like a hassle to get things sorted out, I think you’ll regret that much more in the end. 

Post # 38
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698 posts
Busy bee

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@ScienceGeekgirl:  on the plus side, despite his chicken sW#& anti-proposal, he has the ring. and you’ve decided to stay. so, good luck and many happt thoughts your way

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