Post # 1
Bees I need your input. Ill try to make a long story short but keeping the important details.
Its the Holiday season and I dont know if thats why Im feeling this way. I have an elderly patient who we see pretty often. Alot of times she has to cancel her appointments b/c of her health, or she cant pay her copay that day, etc..
She canceled her appointment for today and we got talking and she told me that over the weekend she had a lapse of judgement, and two guys knocked on her door(she lives alone with her dog- she is 84) telling her they were there to look at her fence so that they can come back to fix it. Now she thought that they were with her HOA i guess, she the one guy asked to use her bathroom so she let them in and explained that the dog gets a little crazy around people she doesnt know, so she gave the guys 2 treats to give to the dog. Well she shows the potty break guy where the bathroom was and after a few mins he came out and his “brother” said did you go and he said no. Well the “brother” explained to her that potty break guy had cancer and gets embarassed to use other peoples bathrooms.
They proceed to go outside to look at the fence, and the “cancer” guy says he was gonna go use the bathroom outside. So he walks up the yard and shes asks the other guy where he went and he said across the street to the house.. well its an empty house she said.. so they walk back up the yard and the guy was sitting in the car. They tell her they will be back on friday to fix the fence.
She goes inside and feels uneasy, and looks and her wallet is there and no money is missing but the next day she noticed that some of her jewelery was missing… So pretty much she got robbed.. While telling me this she says how she cant go to the bank b/c she has no money but needs to go to the grocery store… THIS IS WHY MY HEART STRINGS ARE BEING PULLED.
In the good spirit of the Holiday, she I get her a gift card for gorceries and just send it to her annon? And just put it in a xmas card saying sending holiday cheer your way- from a caring friend.
Reason why im so torn, she has family but they dont live that close- and i dont think they are well off either. But i feel like i should do a good deed. But i also dont want to offend an 84 year old stubborn lady….
What would you ladies do??!!
Post # 3
@graygodess20: Buy a gift card, take it to her and say this was left on your front door. Invite her over for Thanksgiving dinner maybe?
Post # 4
@figgnewton: she lives an hour away from me so thanksgiving to a no go- but if i lived closer- i totally would! I just hate how people take advantage of old people
Post # 5
You are so sweet to think of someone else 🙂 I read this and thought… ‘if it weren’t for the dog, that could be MY grandma!’ and it touches me that maybe she would encounter someone who would do something nice for her. I say send an anon gift card 🙂
Post # 6
Send her the anon gift card!!!
Post # 7
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Yes to the anonymous gift card, it would be a wonderful thing for you to do for this poor lady!
Post # 8
@graygodess20: sending her a gift card is a great idea! That’s really nice.
Question though — will she know how to use a gift card? I mean this seriously. Some older folks I know don’t use gift cards because they can’t figure them out. I mean, she’ll probably figure it out… just raising the point in case!
Post # 9
It can’t hurt to send the card!
Post # 10
I think a card with an anonymous gift card would be very sweet. She may not have any family to help her out. :
Post # 11
@graygodess20: I’d buy her the gift card. That’s a shame that happened to her and that’s sweet of you to help out.
Post # 12
I think a annonymous gift card would be PERFECT. Do it :}
Post # 13
I think that would be really kind. Or take a box of non perishable food to her and leave it on her steps.
Post # 14
Stopping by to give an update- FIRST off… Thank you bees for giving advice… I was really torn.
After work I stopped and got a $100 visa gift card and a nice holiday card. I’m gonna write that she may use the money as she pleases may it be groceries, doctor appointments- how ever she may like. And to remind her that there are still good genuine people in this world.
I decided on getting that amount because this may feed her for a month- and thinking/knowing that will let mesleep easy at night.
Sharing my story, I hope that if any of you bees are in a situation where you can help someone out… I hope you do. It’s the best feeling in the world.
Post # 15
@graygodess20: I’m glad you followed your heart and gave the old lady some money so she can get some groceries. In cases like this, we all have to ask ourselves, “What would I want someone to do for her if she were MY grandmother?” This could also be ourselves in fifty or sixty years’ time because unless we die young, we will grow to be old and when our time comes, we will want someone to show us the same kindness you showed this poor woman. Thank you for being compassionate to her! I don’t know the woman but I think that kindness to senior citizens is something we all have to appreciate for the reasons I just stated and it really does make the world a better place.
Post # 16
You are an angel on earth!! What a touching story. Thank you for being such a good person!!