Post # 1
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Honey bee
Anybody ever read the “Awkward Yeti” comics? I feel like this ALL. THE. TIME.
I saw my ex (the one who cheated on me multiple times, left me, CRUSHED my heart into a bazillion tiny pieces) driving down the highway the other day and there is a girl sitting in his passenger seat all lovey dovey on him. And my brain says “Boy, I sure dodged a bullet there. I’m so lucky to have my SO, he does such a good job and loves being part of my family. It sure is nice to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t cheat and is there for us and is excited for our future.” And my heart says… ” that bitch! What does she have that I don’t have? What makes her so special???” And my brain says “You know that girl. She is a much better match for him anyway. I wish them well.” And my heart stomps off into the corner to pout…
Does anybody else have this lame internal battle…not just about relationship stuff, but all kinds of things!
Post # 2
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Worker bee
100%. I’m sure if my brain could, it would kick my heart’s ass for being so stupid sometimes! Then you enter my ego into the mix and it’s a combo just like you described above! 🙂
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Haha! I love your post and the previous comment. So much truth.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
My brain is super intellectual and loves logic and fact and science…
My heart is a hormonal 16 year old girl :/
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Aww I’m sorry. I know that feeling, and it’s great that you recognize it!
There’ve been some studies lately that show that the heart is actually kind of like a second brain in many ways, and is capable of thinking / communicating with the brain, as well as storing memories and a lot of emotional characteristics. So there really IS something to that conflict of logic versus emotion that you feel between your head and your heart! Not that it directly helps you in this situation, but interesting article, Second Brain Found in Heart Neurons.
It’s all about knowing when and how to keep the two in balance.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
desertgypsy: Oh yes. I have this internal battle too.
For example, my saga has been well documented here about how my ex fiance cheated on me and is now engaged to the girl he cheated on me with. My former best friend got married in December and I was the Maid/Matron of Honor and my ex was the best man. Lovely.
It’s been over a year and a half since we broke up, and I know I’m better without him, but seeing him at the wedding – and talking to him – just made all that hurt come back. I wanted to scream at him, ask him if he really knows how much hell he put me through. Physically, his new fiancee is very different than me (I am on the taller side and brunette/brown eyes and she is petite blond hair/blue eyes) so I KNOW what she has that I don’t. And I was there with my new boyfriend, who is awesome, but that still didn’t stop my heart from feeling heavy for a while.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
Sunfire: Bahahahaha! That is an awesome one!
summerlove23: Thank you for the article. The human body/psyche is so freaking amazing…even if annoying sometimes 😉
Post # 9
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Worker bee
Ah the old head vs heart battle.
Sometimes neither one is correct. No one ever mentions the other guy, the most important one of the three. That’s your gut, that little voice inside that always seems to just ‘know’.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
The heart wants what it wants.
Problem is, the heart is usually wrong…unless it aligns with the head…that’s the only way the heart can be right. So my motto is, follow the head first. If the heart follows, then great.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
Things my heart made me do:
– stalk (yep, stalk) a guy via his twitter feed so I knew which club he was going to and “run into him”
– call/text/FB exes while on inebriated/on some sort of substance
– social media stalk my exes’ new gf and then spend DAYS bothering about what it means that this one clearly has dyed roots and this one has a picture of herself holding a chainsaw and that one has two dogs
– read my exes’ DAD’s blog
…I’m seeing that the Internet has not been very good for my heart-brain balance!
I’m older now and a little better at listening to my brain when it says, “I know you WANT to, but you just can’t.” I’m probably also a little better with that because I say that, like 100 times a day to my kid, so…
Post # 12
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Busy bee
Teeeehee!! I love this post! My brain and heart goes nuts!
Thought this his pic would help you!
Post # 13
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Honey bee
BothCoasts: Oh God, the Internet has been letting people’s hearts make HORRIBLE decisions so easily for like 20 years now! I have definitely done my fair share of FB stalking 😉
Post # 14
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Busy bee
This is a lovely thread, but I’ve always found it really hard to sympathise with the whole heart vs. brain schema. Actually makes me feel a bit left out, haha… I’ve just never felt like I’m having an internal battle between rational thoughts and irrational emotions. Of course, I can feel multiple things in some situations, e.g. feeling a bit sad to leave a place, while being ultimately happy to leave, but it has never felt like what you guys are describing. Does anyone else know what I mean, or am I in fact an alien?
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
footprints: Exactly this! Ignore the brain, ignore the heart, the gut is always without fail right 😉
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