(Closed) Heartache, thy name is Mother

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sorry you are going through this.  I think it’s worth it to try to sit down with her and tell her how you feel, but be prepared for her to shut down or react in a non-communitive way.  If she really is bi-polar, you will have to understand her reaction doesn’t have anything to do with you and is strictly a result of her condition.  It’s really hard not to take it personally, but the way people with that kind of disorder react to emotional situations can seem very hurtful and mean, when really it has nothing to do with you.  If she doesn’t take an active role and continues not to participate/communicate with you after you tell her how you feel, you should probably focus on the positive relationships you have and plan the wedding with the support of those people.

Post # 5
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I completely understand.  You just have to continue to make an effort to not expect anything, but do the right thing by inviting her.  One day, she may ‘wake-up’ or see a doctor who can really help her and you and her will both be happy that you continued to maintain a relationship through the hard times.  You just have to be a stronger person and do your best to not be disappointed by her absence or actions.  Keep focusing on all the good things you have going on and as long as you have realistic expectations regarding your mother, it should help ease the hurt of her not being around and not being close with you while you plan your wedding.

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