(Closed) Heartbroken over MOHs behavior, FI and I don’t want her in the wedding

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Busy Beekeeper

@Sunfire:  I’m not even religious, but a big “AMEN” to this!

Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@KatyElle:  Thanks!

Post # 34
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Honey bee

@KT808: 100% this!

OP…your Fiance has forgiven you…God has forgiven you…it’s time to forgive yourself. 

Post # 35
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Honey bee

@Sunfire:  And yes! You took the words right out of my mouth! Sorry…I missed your post, but you are spot on!

Post # 36
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@2PeasinaPod:  Thank you, I really appreciate it.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not sure how you expect your Maid/Matron of Honor to know how you feel when you lie to her about it. You said you told her that “You had a great time”.

I’m guessing she will be a little suprised that the friendship is over.

 

FYI. I also think it’s detrimental to sling around words like “She WAS the perfect wife…until x,y,z”. No one is perfect. I think I’m a pretty darn good wife, my house is not always clean and yes, sometimes I go out drinking with my friends.

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Sunfire:  agree with everyone else, you put it in a way i wish a lot of other Christians could. thanks for your post!

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The only thing I have to add, if you need some guidance go to your church I’m sure paster or other church elders are there for you. Also she is not your employee so you can’t fire her, but if you no longer want her in your wedding, then let her now. Finally regardless of what you did and if others think it’s a sin or not, if you feel you need forgiviness from your Fi, or for relegious reasons then do what gives you comfort like praying/talking to church friends. Finally regardless of what you did or didn’t do you have to own your behavior and mistakes. You are an adult and in that case if someone said to me you going somehwere you wouldn’t like or be comfotable with, I would have never left with them in the first place.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry that your friendship has changed so rapidly.  If you truly don’t want to be her friend anymore then I cannot stop you from deciding to kick her out of your wedding.  But know that will end the friendship.

In your OP, you mentioned that this is new behavior for her – that she used to be the model wife.  Did something change in her relationship?  People don’t usually do a 180 with their behavior.  Have you tried talking to her about this new, constant partying?  It sounds like she needs a friend now more than ever, so I would hesitate to end the frienship until you find out what is really going on.

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