(Closed) Heavy appetizer wedding

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m a fan, if you state clearly on the invitations that it’s apps and not a full sit-down. Your venue sounds badass, too, btw. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i am doing something similar…. and i love the idea! mine and fis families are so laid back and its so us! we are having mini sandwiches, bbq pulled pork, meatballs, mac and cheese, potato salad, fruittrays, veggie trays, etc. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had a heavy appetizer wedding, and it was wonderful!  The one thing that gives me concern, though, is your venue saying they “cannot accomodate a sit down dinner for the amount of guests we are inviting.”  Does this mean there will not be enough seating for everyone?  If so, that’s a much bigger issue than the food choice.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Sounds great, as long as it doesn’t rain!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Your situation sounds a lot like mine. We found our ‘perfect venue’ but it wasn’t big enough for a full blown sit-down dinner in the ballroom. Our venue had a ballroom and then some other lounge type areas just outside the ballroom.  We did heavy appetizers (which we specified on the invites but really it was enough food to be considered a full meal).

We had tables with chairs in the ballroom for 160 I think – our total RSVP count was 230. We also had cocktail tables on the edges of the ballroom, on the outdoor balcony, and in the bar area. There was sofa type seating in two different lounges. Obviously I didn’t have a seating arrangement. I have gotten TONS of compliments on what a great mingling relaxed vibe our wedding had. My mom has gotten compliments, my Mother-In-Law has gotten compliments. People loved the food, loved the freedom to move around and talk to different people all night. 

A couple things: I knew from our guest list that we wouldn’t have very many elderly guests that would Need a chair to sit in. Basically just our grandparents – and we reserved a table specifically for each family so that I knew my grandma could sit all night.

We meant to have a table reserved for the wedding party but somehow it got lost in the shuffle so we never had a seat. It may sound weird but it was kind of awesome – there was no clinking glasses to make you kiss, no awkward eating at a huge table in front of everyone. We just got to mingle around and grab food from the stations (I absolutely skipped the line at all of the stations throughout the night).

Be aware that commenters here will express concern about not having a chair in the dining room for every single guest. I understand it as a valid concern and freaked out about it for a while. But in the end, we didn’t have a chair for everybody in the dining room and we had a lot of happy guests. And I guess if there were unhappy guests they left early, but they probably would have anyway.

Okay – sorry for the novel. To sum it up: do it. We did it. It worked great.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

My sister had this kind of wedding and it worked perfectly. The only problem was not enough seating but it definitely sounds like you don’t have that problem. I love getting to taste lots of different kinds of food instead of just a plate of chicken or something ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This is what I’m doing by choice — our venue can absolutely accomodate a seated dinner, but if I have to sit through one more rubber chicken and veggies plate and long dinner…bleh! Just didn’t want to endure that at my own wedding when it’s not my taste ๐Ÿ™‚

Heavy hors d’oeurves is pretty common for events in my part of the country. You can provide just as much food as a plated dinner, and it’ll be fresher and more variety. It’s easier to accomodate dietary needs and wishes…people who don’t like something can just avoid that station and fill up elsewhere! No special veggie meals, etc.

We’re putting arrangements on every table, but most are smaller (like 3 apothecary vases). We have a mix of table sizes, ranging from cocktail hi-boys to 10-tops. We’ll have a table with favors and a sign explaining people should take one. (I’ve seen this at traditional buffet weddings as well)

“Kid food” can easily be accomodated in heavy hors d’oeurves…including things like mini sandwiches, meatballs, fruit. Kids love finger foods and things on sticks — pretty classic elements of appetizers!

 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@kristaboyer:

You’ll win over your mom/FMIL eventually. Both of mine (and my DH) were skeptical at first. A bit worried that people wouldn’t get enough to eat – both of our families are small town midwestern farmers and our friends/family expect meat & potatoes. It was definitely not a problem. And I loved the being able to mingle all night, people really moved around – it is just like any other cocktail type party that you go to.

Our basic schedule:

5:30 Ceremony. Cocktail hour immediately following for guests while the wedding party took some fun pictures around town. During cocktail hour we had the lightest of our apps available – cheese/cracker & fruit/veggies – which continued to be available the whole night.

7:00(ish) Wedding party arrived at reception. Introductions immediately followed by cake cutting – this gave the servers a minute to get drinks to the wedding party. Then toasts by Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man plus a thank you from us. After that we opened up the rest of the appetizer stations and the cake disappeared into the kitchen to be cut and came back out shortly thereafter as its own station. Our food was available “as long as people keep eating” but in 4 hours I’m sure people will get plenty to eat.

8:00 Formal dances followed by lights dimmed for dance party music.

We had basically three different centerpiece styles – for the 10-tops we had either (1) 3 pillar vases with floating candles surrounded by votives and flower petals or (2) a simple pillar with fresh tulips. On the cocktail tables we had smaller round bubble vases with a couple spidermums. We didn’t do favors but I think a table close to the door would work just fine.

Good luck!

Post # 16
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Honey bee

Sounds delicious. I’ve never been to one but it sounds like fun. If you’re having heavy appetizers, you don’t need to specify that on the invite since many people incorrectly believe that you will be starving them with appetizers only and no full dinner. They also don’t realize that heavy appetizers receptions serve twice as much food as a plated meal, so if someone goes home hungry, it’s not from lack of food. In that case, on the invite, just call it dinner since that is what is, simply a different presentation. Otherwise, you will have people eating before they arrive and they don’t touch anything due to being stuffed and your food and money goes to waste.

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