Post # 1
We’re paying for the wedding ourselves, and as much as we would like to pay for a caterer, we have realized that we simply do not have the funds for it.
We have now resorted to making our own meals, and I’m thinking since we have such an extensive sweets table, and such that heavy hors doeuvres would be a good idea.
I’m just worried that it’ll be tacky. We’re doing a rustic wedding in the country during the springtime.
So opinions: Is it tacky?
Post # 3
I don’t think it is tacky. I love hors d’oeuvres. Just remember that it can be just as expensive as a full meal- depending on the eating time period. (My relatives could eat heavy h.d.’s all night- thereby costing me more unless it was limited to three hours or something.)
I think it is fine.
Post # 4
I don’t think its tacky. I love little finger foods! It might makes your guests feel a little more comfortable since they don’t have to sit down for a full fancy meal. Casual food can usually be a good thing. =)
Post # 5
No it’s not tacky. I can’t stand that word. It’s so overused. We are having a cocktail style reception in the afternoon. It’s really not saving money. It’s almost the same costs as a buffet and we are going back and forth right now about what we want.
As long as your guests are fed, then you are fine.
Post # 6
not at all! heavy hors d’ouevres are actually the norm in the south. i would try to schedule it on the “off” hours though, or say heavy hors d’ouevres reception. if people are coming at 7pm and not in the south, they might be expecting a full meal.
Post # 7
The last wedding I went to had mostly hors d’oeuvres, with a small pasta bar off to the side, and then lots of little dessert type things instead of a cake. It was nice, definitely NOT tacky, and everyone was well-fed. If it saves you money and it’s what you want to do, go for it!
Post # 8
I don’t think it is a tacky idea at all — depending on the timing. If you do heavy hors d’oeuvres and serve drinks at a time that is traditionally dinner, I think you will have issues. My only complaint is when things run late, and all I have had is hors d’oeuvres and cocktails.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s tacky at all. We had an early evening wedding and we specified “light refreshments will be served immediately afterwards”. We only had hors d’oeuvres, cake, punch and coffee/tea.
Post # 10
PLease stop asking if something is tacky.
That is asking others to be judgemental of your plans.
Post # 11
I think it’s fine! It is great for an earlier afternoon wedding and many times a wedding in the afternoon is perfect for this vs. an evening wedding where there is usually dinner to follow. Do make sure on the invites that it is clearly defined as heavy appetizers.
Post # 13
I sure hope not, since that is what we are doing here in about 4 weeks 🙂
We are having an open bar, heavy apps, light apps, cake, and a smores bar. Our ceremony starts at 7:30pm.
Post # 14
Not tacky at all…we are doing heavy hors d’eouvres…that is actually the norm here in the south…I have not gone to any weddings that are anything but! Go for it 🙂 But if you think that there is a chance that people might be hungry still…then I would make sure you let people know that it is a heavy hors d’oeuvres reception.
Post # 15
@julies1949: I feel differently. I ask because my brain runs a mile a minute with ideas, and sometimes it helps to sift through other peoples opinions to calm my brain and figure out what I want for myself.
Post # 16
@NotFridaythe13th: Oh! Pasta bar off to the side sounds like a really good idea. Pasta definitely stretches.