(Closed) Hedgie Baby Update.

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hugs! Don’t feel guilty feeling how you do. I can only imagine you will be feeling a whole slew of emotions for a while and that’s human. We are here for you, girl.

Post # 63
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sorry to hear this is how the story ended… Hope you feel better soon!

Post # 64
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@jholler25: Not to be rude, but that is completely insensitive. Everyone reacts to shock and pain differently. This post is about someone’s loss, it’s not an excuse to make her feel bad because you are having troubles TTC. Just because her pregnancy was unplanned does not make this a less devestating situation for her or her husband. Coming into this type of thread and saying things like that makes it all about you as well.

OP I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you.

Post # 65
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

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@jholler25: I’m very sorry you are going through a difficult time conceiving and I wish you the best, truly. But what you wrote to OP was hurtful and unnecessary.

OP, I am so so sorry to hear about your loss…grieving is a process and everyone’s process is different…certainly no need to feel guilty. My prayers are with you and your husband.

Post # 66
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Don’t beat yourself up over not feeling the “proper” emotion in this situation. Like you said, it is shocking. Everyone experiences grief differently, and even if you feel that you’re not grieving, maybe it’s because of the circumstances of the pregnancy.

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

OP: Again, I am sorry for your loss.

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@jholler25: I can’t even believe you posted on her loss post criticizing her feelings. I have quite a few words for you right now, because I am beyond disgusted with you, but I will refrain. 

 

Post # 68
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh, Hedgie. I am so very sorry!!! *hugs*

Post # 69
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Wannabee

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@jholler25: I’ve seen plenty of your posts before and I’m used to you saying things that are pretty selfish/rude and I don’t normally post here but your post was completely disgusting and you should be ASHAMED. You have NO right to tell MH how she should or what she should be feeling.

Think about what you say before you open your mouth and fire off ignorance.

 

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@jholler25: i dont think you meant to be rude….i understand how hard it is when you want a baby so bad….in this case this was no something hedgie expected or was sure she wanted. its ok that she doesnt feel anything…now…or ever.

its important that we try and remain supportive….if someone else was going through this…we would support them regardless of the circumstances. Just try and be more understanding….and like mama pretti always says:

If you have nothing nice to say…..say nothing at all

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I was going to say something about that post, but I see it’s been done. 

 

Hedgie, I’m thinking of you because I know that it probably will hit you what has happened, and it is going to hurt, but you and the Mr are going to get through this and you’ll have your babies when it’s meant to be. 

 

Post # 72
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ever since I read about your pregnancy, I have been excited for you, and now I am so sad for you. I’ve been wondering how those little hedgies were after reading your last post, and I was so sad to hear this news that you posted just now. You and your husband are in my thoughts! Stay strong and someday, when the time is juuuust right, you will have that little family. You are probably going to feel a whole range of emotions, from numbness to pain in the upcoming months, and we Bees are here if you need us. <3

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So sorry to hear about your loss. Hang in there.

Post # 74
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Busy bee

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@jholler25: It is clear that OP IS having an intense emotional reaction; numbness is a defense mechanism that unconsciously protects us from experiencing intense sadness, anger, etc.  Everyone copes differently, and it isn’t right to judge others based on how you think you would act or feel. For example, when we were grieving my father’s death, my sister had intense, angry, crying outbursts… and I had bouts of crying and sadness also, but just because her reaction was more intense, doesn’t mean I felt any less sad or upset. 

Anyway, my point is everyone is different in how they deal with tragedies and loss, and it’s important to be sensitive and respectul of that. 

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 1996

ive been following your story for a while, I am so sorry to hear this. You and Mr Hedgie are in my thoughts and prayers! I send you much love for the future <3

Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ms Hedgie…

I am keeping you in my thoughts, I feel terribly for you. Please pay no mind to the ugly comment above. We are all here for you!

 

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