Post # 1
I was wondering if anyone else was having trouble with family issues with the dinner rehearsal? My soon to be mother-in-law has just told me that they are renting out cabins for their family to stay at and they are throwing the dinner rehearsal at the campground. I particularly don’t care because I think it is great that they are throwing us any kind of dinner. On the other hand my parents who are shelling out thousands of dollars for the wedding are going to be pissed! I haven’t told them their plans partly because of fear. Any suggestions?<!–Session data–>
Post # 3
Why would your parents be pissed? The rehearsal dinner is trationally much more informal than the wedding anyway. I think if you act excited when you tell them what fun idea your FI’s parents came up with for the reheasal they’d be more apt to be happy than pissed, no? Look on the bright side… they have 8 months to warm up to the idea 😉
Post # 4
I think they are going to be pissed because they have already told me that they believe that this is their gift to both me and their son. So they simply want the respect from them to give having a nice dinner. The reason why my FI’s don’t want to do a "nice" dinner is because they want to invite like 50+ people from the wedding party. So in order to do that they have decided to skimp on the location/dinner. But I will definitely take your advice to sound excited when I tell my parents about it. Maybe they will at the least be civil about it!<!–Session data–>
Post # 5
I would tell them sooner rather then later. Tell them to act like adults and be nice! 🙂
Post # 6
Just tell them that it’s going to be a fun, BBQ style event. I think if you play up the camp-theme of the dinner, it will be really cute and fun, and it won’t just look like they chose a campsite because it’s cheap.
Post # 7
Has your mother-in law said she was going to skimp on the dinner etc? Just because it’s held at a camp, doesn’t mean it has to be "cheap". There are plenty of ways to dress it up and to serve great food. Another way to explain it to your parents I guess is to say that she didn’t want to take away from any of the glamour of the wedding.
Post # 8
I can understand being worried about your parents – but is there a little part of you that wishes it was a swanky RD?
I’m sure there will be some snarky comments, but hopefully the focus will be on the BIG day – not on the in-law’s style.
Even if your parents are ‘pissed’ – trust me – they’ll get over it.
Post # 9
Don’t judge a party by the amount of money spent on it, judge by the amount of love going into it! Emphasize to your parents how excited you are for an informal occasion to party down with people, etc. They’ll follow your lead, if not immediately then eventually. The BBQ sounds like a fun time to me. 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks for all the helpful comments. I’m sure they will get over it. There has been much said about the dinner rehearsal so may be it has blown over for the time being. My parent’s are typically good at keeping their mouth shut even when they are upset and I’m sure they would never ruin the weekend. It would just be nice if they did it at a normal restaurant so that I wouldn’t have to deal with it! haha Oh well…if nothing else, it will be interesting!