(Closed) Heels or lifts for my adorable Tom Cruise like fiance?

posted 9 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

Hmm, don’t most man dress shoes give the guys about an inch or so?  How much vertical "enhancement" are you looking to add?

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I found menstallshoes.com but we have not purchased them yet. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I wouldn’t make my fiance wear high heels to our wedding, just because I wanted to wear stilettos– that would be really unfair to him.  There are plenty of beautiful kitten heels and flats out there you could choose.  Are you wearing a short dress?  If not, your shoes will probably not even show.  Is it because you like a specific shoe, or you just want the extra height?

I would just tread carefully with this one, as it could really hurt your fiance’s ego.  Some men have a real "thing" about height, and feel that taller equals more masculine.  Especially if he’s on the shorter side, he may have a bit of a complex about his height, and may feel embarrassed if you ask him to wear lifts (I’m assuming he’s clever and would see through the "good for your back" fib).

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I also think that unless your fiance expresses a desire to be taller, you should wear lower heels.   Telling him you want him to be taller will really make you come across as a bit of a -zilla.  

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with the posts about not asking him to wear shoes with heels. My guy is only about 1.5-2 inches taller than me and I decided I will be wearing shoes with low heels. I know he doesn’t want to be shorter than me and he would take a lot of flack for wearing man-heels.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Does he want to be taller than you or do you want him to be taller than you? If he doesn’t care that you’re taller, wear the heels you want and get over the notion that the man in the relationship has to be taller. If it really bothers you to have a shorter man, I’d definitely suggest finding an attractive lower heel rather than putting him in lifts. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

yeah, i think this really has the potential to hurt his feelings. i mean, he probably already has a problem with being a shorter guy. i’m wearing flats (same situation) and while they’re not my first choice of shoes for our wedding it will make us look a bit more balanced.

my fiance would freaking pass out if i made that request…

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2009

lisalulu – let me know when you get them how they work out. We have been eyeing that website. He offered the same thing when he saw the flats I had to choose from 🙂

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

oh holy crap. i know that this post is pretty much over but i told my fiance about this post and she asked if i would mind if she got them. I AM SO SHOCKED!

I was wrong, wrong, wrong.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I know this post is kind of old, but I just have to say thanks for the menstallshoes.com referral!  My fiance really wanted to find something non-obvious to be taller than me for our big day, since every other day, I’m a couple inches above him! I can’t wait to show him this! Smile

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