(Closed) heels or no heels on the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
Post # 2
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

One of my biggest regrets about my wedding is that I DID wear heels. I wish I would have gone for comfort instead, because you couldn’t see my shoes anyway! Then when my feet started aching and I had to take my heels off my dress was too long. Sigh…

Go with the flats! 

Post # 3
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Do what makes you feel comfortable.  You are going to be in your shoes and standing all day long. It’s not a requirement to wear heels. And, if you don’t wear them regularly you will be so uncomfortable.  

I wore heels because I’m 10 inches shorter than my husband but if we were only 2 inches apart, I’d probably have worn flats. 

Post # 4
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wore flats! I don’t regret the decision at all ๐Ÿ™‚ Just make sure they’re great shoes that you still feel excited about wearing. 


Post # 5
2417 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

There’s nothing wrong with being taller than your Fiance in pictures, its all personal preference. I’m wearing 1 1/4″ wedge heels, just to help with the length of my dress so I don’t have to hem it. Otherwise I would be wearing flats for pure comfort.  

These are the shoes I’m wearing 

Post # 6
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I’m usually a heels girl. But between getting married outside on the grass and my surprisingly heavy dress with a train, I started to realize that heels wouldn’t be practical.

Then I found a pair of vintage white satin shoes online with FLAT short heels, like 1 inch. Perfect for my outdoor lawn wedding.  I love these shoes!  I showed my bridesmaids, and they both hated it. One actually yelled she hated it for like a minute. THey wanted me to go with heels, even though it won’t be their feet in pain at the end of the night after I’ve spent 8 hours greeting relatives, posing for photos, and dancing.

FWIW, my Fiance is way taller than me, and that’s why I originally wanted to wear heels. But I feel like I won’t notice the height difference in the photos, but I will notice if my feet hurt, or if I switched out my heels for flats and got my dress even dirtier.

Long story short, I say go with flats. I want to enjoy my wedding, not impress my bridesmaids with my shoe choice that won’t even show under my full-length dress.

Post # 7
1383 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

Agreed that it’s all about comfort. If you feel comfortable in flats, then absolutely go for it. There are certainly many options of bridal looking shots in flat styles.

My Fiance is also only a couple of inches taller than me, but I really want to wear heels. Yes, I am conflicted. I don’t like looking taller than him, but I love heels and wear them almost every day since I hate the way 90% of flats look and feel on me. I’m going to be looking for some shorter heels, possibly kitten heels. My Fiance has also meantioned that he might want to wear boots which would just so happen also give him a bit of added height. Right now I’m keeping my options open. I’m not the type to wear stilletos so I don’t really have to worry about finding something ridiculously tall, so I’m just going to wait and see what grabs my eye and then see how that compares to what I feel comfortable in height wise.

Post # 9
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead

I plan to go with heels for the ceremony and flats after pictures (even for first dance and beyond!) for the rest of the night.  I found these cute flats (called Jarmilki, and really popular in eastern Europe) on Etsy with the coral flower (coral is one of our main bridal colors) and my mom added the sequin bows to give it a little bling.  I think they will be so fun to wear!!

Post # 10
413 posts
Helper bee

I have flats for my wedding, and I’m STOKED to wear them. I picked Joy Evening Flats by Betsey Johnson Blue.

Personally I vote closed shoes… I’ve never been a fan of peep toe shoes … It looks like one big ogre toe to me….I know lots of people love them, though, so its a personal preference. Get whats comfortable and what grabs you … I agree with ppl above, that you should be excited to wear your wedding shoes, regardless of heel height. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
1110 posts
Bumble bee

Flats are much better for you anyway, that’s what I plan to wear! And I’m pretty short. Might as well embrace it. Oh and SO is maybe 6 inches taller than me, short for a guy. I think it’s yet another reason to not wear heels.

Post # 12
1099 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My husband is a foot taller than me and I still wore flats. Way more comfortable and no worries about an aisle face-plant ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
104 posts
Blushing bee

Fiance is 5’9″ and I’m 5’8″ so I won’t be wearing heels. When we go out I don’t really mind being taller than him but I don’t really want to hulk over him in our wedding pictures. I’d rather be more comfortable anyway ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
948 posts
Busy bee

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cincakes:  I eore flats. I love flats. Husband is 3 inches taller than me…we look the same height almost unless if photos are taken from an angel. I was happy with my flats. And comfy.

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