(Closed) heirloom diamond – encore groom

posted 4 years ago in Encore
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I don’t think the grandmother would care

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

If I liked the diamond no way would I waste money on semantics.  I agree the grandmother likely won’t care.  If you don’t like the idea of a new setting with the heirloom diamond I think that’s well within your right.  He should set his budget and find you a new ring. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think getting a brand new custom made setting for the diamond sounds great! Unless you are willing to shell out for a new diamond or your own simulant I don’t think its fair to expect him to buy a new one. If you are willing to buy your own then great! Go ahead with that. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I agree with PP. If you like the diamond then have the fun of designing a new setting together. Put your mark on it this way thus making it your own ring and not just a ring that his ex wore.

I doubt it would upset the grandmother at all. I think she would be more likely to be pleased that he has found someone to make him happy and that the ring she gave him is part of the experience.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Yes, I would have loved to have an heirloom diamond regardless of who owned it in the past. Heck, I would take the ring as-is if I liked the style enough! 

I think that the superstition of a ring carrying the bad juju of previous marriages is silly. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I would at least want him to put it in a setting just for me–it would be weird to wear a setting he picked out for the last woman. But I think I’d be fine with the stone itself.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I think it comes down to whether you can let it go (that another woman wore that stone) or if it will constantly bother you. I think the significance of the diamond belonging to his grandmother outweighs the significance that another woman wore it for awhile. She obviously wasn’t the woman meant to keep that stone. A new setting could definitely help make it yours. I love the meaning behind the heirloom stone but ultimately you have to be happy with it and feel like it is special for you!

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