- 7 years ago
I know some of you will read the the post title and think — is this woman insane because diamond is the obvious choice.
But first let me explain — Let me preface this with the fact that I’ve never wanted a diamond engagement ring. You’ve heard this one before — I never saw the point of spending a lot of money on a stone where the value is artificially bolstered by a cartel, the uncertainty of a stone’s origin (i.e. conflict, environmental impact of mine, human rights issues, etc), and even if I didn’t have these moral qualms, the idea of wearing something that expensive on my finger makes me nervous.
My boyfriend and I are pretty modern about this whole process, and we’ve been ring shopping together, with me basically driving the selection process. He wasn’t into colored gemstones, so I naturally went to moissanite — I love the idea of a USA, man made stone. We actually have a custom order placed with a jeweler for a customized cushion cut moissanite solitaire made with lab sapphire accent stones on the basket. We had a little joke about “only scientists were exploited for the making of this ring.”
THEN just as he was about to finalize the process, he remembered, “Didn’t my mom mention my great grandmother’s diamond ring?”
And there is a family diamond. … Actually, two. The first is at least 50 years old, probably a little older and a round cut, likely about 1.25 or more carats. The second is a princess cut that’s about .75 carats. I’m kind of at a loss. I wish I knew about the diamond(s) going into the ring selection process before I got so invested into moissanite, and even though the diamonds are heirloom, I still feel odd about them. Even though he literally JUST REMEMBERED that he had a family diamond to use, he likes the idea of using a family stone, and likes the history and sentimental value. He says it’s 100% up to me, but in that way that he really wants me to pick the diamond. (We would need to get it appraised and reset, likely costing as much or more than the moissanite ring we’ve picked out already)
I am torn — on one hand, the idea of a family stone is sweet, and it would mean a lot to my boyfriend. On the other hand, I really like the ring we’ve already picked out and even though it’s a vintage stone, I’m still struggling with the moral ambiguity of it, and how it goes against the grain of beliefs I’ve held for a while. Any advice?