- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2000
So my boyfriend wants to propose, and his grandmother left him her e ring circa 1940 in her will for him to give to his future wife. It’s beautiful and sentimental and I’d be honored to wear it.
We’ve talked about it and he showed it to me and wanted to know what i ultimately want.
The only thing is that the band is very thick for my fingers and it’s a few sizes too big so it would need to be resized. I have a feeling she was a larger-handed person than me so it prolly looked really elegant, but it makes my fingers look stout. Also, the basket is really high and I so a lot of athletic stuff and am clumsy too boot, so I am afraif of damaging it or scratching someone’s eye out with it. It’s not practical for daily use. Finally, it’s 18k white gold which I find beautiful, but I have a very bad nickel allergy and I don’t know if this gold was mixed with nickel or a different alloy to give it the whiteness. I don’t know what the standard was in the 1940s.
Basically, with the super high basket, it’s not suitable for daily wear as it would need resizing and really, for practical reasons, a lowering of the basket (is that possible?). There’s also the risk that it will make me break out in a ring of red bumps after a day’s wear.
I’m not sure if a new setting is in order, or if it’s better to keep the ring in its original setting and only wearing it on special occasions on the index finger. My boyfriend and I are in discussions about this and he says it’s all up to me, but I feel weird about the idea of taking apart an heirloom. However, I also couldn’t wear it practically as is, even with a resize. I’m wondering if we should hold onto it in case we or his little brother have a daughter, and giive it to her instead? Thanks so much.