Post # 1
My fiance and I have decided to take the road less travelled and change our names together after our wedding. Rather than creating a totally new last name, we’ve agreed to take my maternal grandfather’s last name. He passed away when I was in high school, but would have loved my fiance. There is a lot of emotional significance that comes with the name for my part, and my fiance is eager to change his name for some practical reasons but also so that we can have a fresh start as a new unit. It’s a decision we’ve thought long and hard about, together.
However, now that we’ve made this decision, I’m concerned about how to handle the wedding ceremony. The bit at the end where the officiant announces the new couple may be a bit confusing unless the heirloom last name is addressed at some point. I’m wondering if we should ask our officiant to say a few words about our reasons for the name change? Perhaps a brief written description with the wedding program? I’m at a bit of a loss, and any advice from anyone who has gone through something similar would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 2
huelee13 : Darling Husband and I did this! We took on his mother’s maiden name as it was something he always thought about growing up. His parents are still together but he always felt more attached to her family name and there is no one left on her side to carry it forward.
Anyways… We had it as a surprise portion of our ceremony at the end instead of doing a unity ceremony. Our officiant said something a long the lines of “As they start their lives together as a new family they would like to honor their commitment with an old family name. They will be taking on the XX name and with that I proudly pronounce them the new Mr. and Mrs. XX”
People were SHOCKED there were audible gasps and cheers and tears of joy from all sides. It was really emotional. One drawback… some people like to get personalized things for you for the wedding so they may feel awkward (we only had 1) and also depositing checks was a HASSLE!
PM me if you want any tips/have any questions!
Post # 3
somathemagical : That got me teary-eyed just reading it!
We’re sort of taking a new name. Fiance is hyphenated, I’m taking the second part of his hyphen (dad’s last name), and socially he will be his dad’s last. In our case, we are just going have the officiant announce us at the end “Mr. & Mrs. DadsLast.” That said, we talked to his parents about it already because we’d hate to blindside his mother – who was not happy about this.
Post # 4
somathemagical : I love this. OP, I think that’s the perfect way to announce your new last name at the ceremony. You can also spread it via word of mouth beforehand to give people a heads up.
Post # 6
We weren’t announced at the end of the ceremony. There was the I now pronouce you husband and wife but no names.
When we made our reception entrance, the DJ just used our first names: “The bride and groom, GearBride and GearGroom!” I didn’t know if I was changing my last name so didn’t want to use Mr. and Mrs.
Post # 7
First off, I want to say how sweet I think this is!! Perhaps the earlier you let people know this, the better? Just to avoid confusion. I might even try to incorporate your new last name in your invitations, and might even consider doing a small insert with your new last name, and a simple statement explaining that you two will be joined as husband and wife under this new name for sentiment and unity (or however you would like to say it). Something short, but informative. Otherwise, people will likely be confused. That’s of course, up to you!
Post # 8
This is such a beautiful idea. I have no advice on what you should do, I’m just here to say I love it.