- 4 years ago
Hi bees! Longtime lurker, but my recent engagement has pushed me out of the shadows. I need you guys help with my engagement ring dilemma.
My fiancé proposed to me on our vacation to D.C. in mid-April around my birthday. It was a complete shock to me because we agreed that serious wedding talk wouldn’t go down until our one year. I have been jokingly dragging him into jewelry stores to make him squirm and to get the idea of what type ring I would like when the time comes. No of the rings that I tried on during visits was something that I really wanted. It was mainly to confirm that I was still in love with my dream style. Antique, yellow gold, diamond cluster rings.
I didn’t tell my fiancé that was the type of ring that I wanted. But I would mention at the stores I liked yellow gold, which most stores these days have a limited section of. And because of that I’d probably to go the antique route. Low and behold, my man was listening!
He proposed to me with his grand-grandmother’s depression era ring. It has a yellow gold shank with a square illusion white gold face cradling a maybe? .25 carat diamond. He stuck to guidelines I wanted and I love him for listening but I kinda have lackluster feelings about the ring.
I feel horrible about it because he gave me this ring with so much love and excitement, but I’m just not loving it. While I don’t hate the design it’s nothing I would have picked out for myself as an engagement ring. Maybe as a dainty RHR or how I’m wearing it now as a pinky ring. I think it looks kind of plain and doesn’t encompass my personality at all. I relayed some of these emotions with him and we went to look at a ring I found on ebay. The company selling the ring has a brick and mortar store near us. I was hoping going to see it would make me find some flaw with it to make me fall out of love. It didn’t work. Now I’m in a tough stop.
I love, love, love the ring I tried on in the store. My fiancé says that if that’s the ring I want, he’ll be more than happy to get it for me. But I can tell on his face he’s disappointed that I don’t like the ring he proposed with. Also whenever I try to talk to him about getting an appraisal for the ring I want, he gives a half-hearted response about calling his insurance people.
I don’t know what I should do. Should I just get my fiancé proposal ring resized and start wearing it like he wants? Should I take him up on the offer he made me and push him to buy the ring that I want? Or should I just wear his ring now and look forward to an upgrade in the future? The only problem with the last one is that my ring is a pawn shop find. It might not be there in a couple of years for me to upgrade to.