Post # 1
I was engaged in June of this year. My now fiance gave me a very simple white gold e-ring with 4 small square diamonds that together form a bigger square. It’s small but it’s pretty much the norm around here. I’ve grown to love it, because I know he put a lot of thought into choosing it.
I was planning on getting an eternity band as a wedding band to go with it in order to add more sparkle.
We recently had our engagement party and my future father-in-law gave us his grand-mother’s e-ring and band (my fiance’s great-grand-mother’s). He told us we could either use them for our wedding, or not or give them to our daughter for future use.
It is a HUGE deal that I was given these rings. The band is a simple yellow gold band with an inscription inside and the e-ring has a very antique look (yellow gold, lots of details), with a diamond that is at least 3 times bigger than the ones I have on my current e-ring.
Now what… Should I just put my own e-ring on my right hand, and use the antique rings on my left hand? It feels awkward… I love my e-ring, and feel weird “downgrading” it to my right hand… Plus I always wanted something very modern, and that is very far from modern…
Any thoughts? Ideas? What’s the proper thing to do…?
Here’s the ring we were given…
Post # 3
WOW what a stunning ring!!!
What does your Fiance think you should do?
Post # 4
You need to do what feels best! I wouldn’t trade my setting in the world because my Fiance gave it to me as a symbol of his feelings and our life… even if it were a zip tie I would never take it off. I say keep both and do a right hand ring out of the new one. How does you Fiance feel?
Post # 5
If you love your original engagement ring, stick with it. You can wear this on your right hand, or maybe wear them when you are around your inlaws, and then keep them for your future son or daughter, as the heirloom they are meant to be.
Post # 6
I’m not terribly sentimental about jewellery (even my engagement ring) so I would (and will) wear lots of different rings on that finger depending on what works at the time.
If you love that ring then wear it. It’s got a lovely history behind it and alternating rings doesn’t mean you love your original any less, just that sometimes it’s fun to wear other things.
I’m getting a morganite ring, an amethyst ring and possibly other diamond rings to wear as “engagement” rings at times.
Post # 7
Fiance clearly wants me to wear that one on my left hand… AND use the band at our wedding. The band I really dont mind, except that it’s yellow gold… but there is an inscription on the inside with their 1919 wedding date, and Fiance suggested we have our date engraved as well.
I wish I could use my own e-ring with their wedding band, and use their e-ring on my right hand but yellow and white gold, look so weird togheter to me…
Post # 8
I personally LOVE that ring and would totally wear it, but I understand about it not being your style. It would be hard to not wear my fiance’s ring as my engagement ring, though. Maybe wear the heirloom on your right hand at special occasions and then save it to give to your daughter/her fiance?
That’s so nice that they gave it to you though! And also that they sound understanding if you don’t wear to wear it as your e-ring.
Post # 9
It sounds like your Fiance wants to use the heirloom set, so it wouldn’t be awful to switch your other ring to your right hand. I wore a “promise/anniversary” ring on my left hand from our 5th anniversary till my DH proposed right before our 8th anniversary and it doesn’t feel any less special to wear it on my right hand now.
I’m not sure what you’re comfortable with since the ring is an heirloom, but my friend had a similar situation with a bracelet and she had hers dipped in white gold. Her grandmother had a huge intricate diamond bracelet that she had split into four pieces for her four daughters. One bracelet was passed down to my friend when her mother passed away. My friend does not like nor wear yellow gold, but each diamond encrusted bracelet piece was set in thick, yellow gold, almost like a cuff. Since she wanted to wear the bracelet for her wedding, she had the whole thing dipped/plated by a jeweler in white gold. It looked phenomenal, like it was made that way, and she enjoys it so much more now. Her aunt wore her bracelet to the wedding and looking at the two together you’d just think that my friend’s was made in white gold instead of plated.