Member- kitkatkels
- 4 years ago
Brief background that you can skip if you want: we are both college students so money is a little tight. That being said, we aren’t really in a big rush either, so there is time to save should I decide it’s important. We currently live together and are approaching our 6 year anniversary. We’ve chatted a bit about future plans, and are both on the same page that it’s always felt like more than just a casual relationship, the last conversation we’ve had he mentioned that he basicially considers us engaged but without the formalities. Of course, I’d like the formalities 😉
I’m about 2 years away from my undergrad and then am handling my masters after. If we got engaged, it wouldn’t be for another year and then we probably wouldn’t start planning for a year or two. I don’t know where my masters will take me location wise, but I still feel a little bad that he might be picking up and moving with me when that time comes, I would love to move as an engaged unit. At the same time, I guess it sounds a bit silly since we already have that commitment level. I dunno.
IF YOU SKIPPED READING THAT—START READING AGAIN:)
My grandmother passed about 3ish years ago and left me her engagement ring which is currently in my mothers possesion until he asks for it.
I had sort of had it in my mind to reset it into a halo or adding some black diamonds to it (big fan of black diamonds–just a little edgy!). That was, until my mom brought it out the other week for me to look at for the first time since she had passed. I couldn’t resist slipping it on and it fit like a glove (I lucked out that I got her hands, no one else in the family can wear her rings without getting them resized and she had some mighty nice ones. Thanks Nan!!!) and suddenly the thoughts of resetting it sort of went out of my mind. It’s a very classic looking ring, somewhere around .75 carats if I had to guess, round cut, a beautiful stone, white gold band with smaller diamonds on the band arching up to the center.
So, now I’m stuck: was I just emotional because this ring was my nans? (she lived with us until the day she died–a nasty mix of alziehmers & cancer) Do I tell him I want it as is and save money, but risk being bored with it later? Or, do I get it reset to a “dream ring” but lose some of the signifigance and force some more debt & stress on us?
One idea we had thought of was getting it cleaned and inspected and take it as is, and a few years down the road if I start getting bored with it I can reset it to something I’d like better. If you’ve done this(or planned to) did you find that it had too much signifigance to let go of, or were you happy to say goodbye? He’s not crazy about halos(although admits that he wont be the one wearing it–so if I like it, hey, thats what he’ll get) and also suggested maybe he just gets me a black diamond with a halo as a gift at some point so I’d have one to drool over while still keeping my grandmothers ring.
Did you get a heirloom ring? Did you keep it as is, or reset? Feeling on this? (&please include pictures, because I do love some good ring pics!)
Thanks ladies
