Post # 1
My great-grandmother left me her rings – went to the youngest direct-line female descendant. They are very much not my taste (hideous is the word I would use – or terrifying – eye-gouging solitaire), but they are the only family heirloom I have.
Since my boyfriend is sort of shopping for rings, I asked my mom about the wedding set (I thought it was in a safe deposit box.) If we both like the diamond (I haven’t looked at them since I was twelve or so), I was thinking he might be able to put the stone in my engagement ring. My mom went into our fire-safe box and got it out.
My mom looked at the ring. She said the stone wasn’t as grotesquely huge as I remembered, but the setting was – so there is more hope that I can use them. But there was more I thought until today that I only inherited the wedding set, but apparently there’s at least one other ring. It apparently has multiple small stones and a colored stone in the center – I like small stones, and colored stones. I’m vaguely excited about it.
Anyway, my mom will be e-mailing me a picture of them (because I don’t remember the non-wedding ring) and shipping them to me. But… I’m not real sure my guy is thrilled about the idea of not buying the whole ring himself.
Anyone else have an heirloom ring they wanted to use? Anyone have ideas for talking my guy into using a stone he doesn’t buy himself?
Post # 3
I don’t have any heirloom rings or stones, but I don’t see why you wouldn’t use a stone or ring that is yours, but not in your possession. Because you don’t wear the rings now, I think it would be a great idea to use the stones. If it were me, I’d probably rather get a new setting so that it’s more special and *your* engagement ring. It’s really up to you and your boyfriend. If you’re on board but he’s reluctant, you could let him choose the setting or let him plan something else nice to do with the saved money (a vacation!?).
Good luck and I’m sure the rings are beautiful!
Post # 4
So I talked to him about it again… He thought I meant him proposing with my great-grandma’s ring. “Well, not her ring, exactly, just the…” “OH! You mean I kind of cannibalize it and put it in the ring I choose. OK, that I can see…” And then he pulled me over to him and just sat there for several minutes… “What are you thinking about?” “Scheming.” “Can I inquire further?” Self-satisfied grin – “No.” Am I allowed to go “SQUEEEEEE!” inside at this point?
Post # 5
Yes, you are allowed to go “SQUEEE,” on the outside, too! 🙂 Congrats!
Post # 6
How wonderful 🙂 I agree, save the $ for a vacation and use Great Grandma’s diamond.
Post # 7
LOL @ cannabilize it! Good luck on getting engaged soon!!
Post # 8
wonderful! what a great plan!
And you have diamond for engagment, maybe use the smaller stones for the band or a wedding band, or a right hand ring!
Post # 9
The boy has his mom’s engagement ring (she passed away when he was 4) and we talked about the possibility of resetting her diamond. At first he was against the idea (I don’t think he really understood the idea that we were using the same diamond, just getting a different band… bless him), but after he understood he seemed more on board. I really like the idea of wearing his mom’s diamond. I’m not sure if that’s what will happen though. I think it’s kind of important to him to buy me a new diamond (showing that he can take care of me financially and whatnot – which I don’t really see as a huge deal). I would love love love to wear the heirloom diamond, but I understand if he doesn’t want to change his mom’s ring/wants to buy me my “own” diamond.
Post # 10
We have the stone from my mom’s engagement ring. It’s a .75 ct round diamond. At first, my SO was a little reluctant about using it. I think he thought the same thing–that he’d just be getting the ring re-sized, and he’d have nothing to pick out with it. I think he wanted to buy the diamond. I told him that it meant a lot to me to use that diamond, and that we could get it put into a different setting. I personally love the idea. I get the best of both worlds–a family heirloom mixed with something that he picked out just for me.
Post # 11
I used an heirloom diamond and my fiance had the setting custom made by a jeweler who specializes in custom hand crafted jewelry. My fiance actually designed the setting (which contains other stones as well), so it made my ring incredibly special even though the center diamond wasn’t purchased by him.