Post # 17
I wanted to wear an heirloom ring for as long as I can remember– first it was my grandmother’s, then my mom’s, and now it’s mine! My fiance proposed with a different ring, as it was a surprise proposal and we hadn’t even talked at all about marriage (we’d only been together nine months). Had I know it was coming, I would’ve just told him to save his money– although I love the one he gave me for my other hand.
I think it’s very romantic to be wearing the same ring my grandmother wore forty-plus years ago, and the ring my mother wore for twenty-plus years.
Post # 18
i’m still in the waiting stage, but my bf has told me he’ll be giving me an heirloom diamond from his family, and that he wants to pick the setting! i’m really, really excited that it’s heirloom–i think it’s so meaningful and gets around all the ethical diamond industry issues that might worry me, and, practically speaking, saves us so much money. and i think it’s totally sweet that he wants to choose the setting….although i really want to help with that part! i think it would so fun to go try on rings, especially since we wouldn’t be pressured to buy since we have the stone. i’m kind of surprised he doesn’t want my input, since he always asks my opinion over his clothes, but, oh well! no matter what, i know it will be beautiful and so, so meaningful!
Post # 19
That sounds wonderful, especially that your mom wanted him to have a special ring to give you. I wouldn’t worry that he proposed because he had a ring – from your story, he got it because he told your mom that he wanted to marry you. Congrats on the engagement, by the way! I’d love to see photos of the ring or hear what you end up doing.
Post # 20
I would LOVE an heirloom ring 🙂 My Mother-In-Law actually offered her mother’s original set to my husband when she first found out he was going to propose – he said said no! Granted he had a beautiful set made for me, but I thought the offer from his mother was so sweet 🙂 I wear my grandmother’s engagement ring on my right hand – I received it when she passed away. I would have loved to use that for my engagement ring, but husby thought the diamond wasn’t large enough
Post # 21
Thanks again, and I really welcome any and all comments still! It’s sort of therapuetic to hear others’ encouragement.
The diamond is cut in a manner that I’ve never ever seen before – part of the shock of the initial proposal was "What shape of diamond is that?!" It’s set as a solitaire in yellow gold (not my favorite, and some areas don’t appear to be yellow – strange), but I’m not sure what other options there are for a different setting, especially since we couldn’t afford more stones.
Strange new world, this engaged/ring business!
Post # 22
I took a second to look at the “Show off your ring” thread and boy – my ring looks so plain now.
Post # 23
No way! I think your ring is beautiful. Personally I’m not a fan of fussier/overly detailed rings, I would love to get a ring like yours – it’s very elegant and graceful.
Many couples do choose together, but a lot don’t, as well. There’s no standard way to do it – whatever works for you guys. I’m pretty sure I’m not going to get to pick my ring, but I guess I’ve at least had time to prepare myself and love whatever I get. It sounds like it might’ve been a surprise for you and you’re still adjusting your expectations? Did you have your heart set on something else?
Post # 24
If you don’t like the yellow gold, it is a simple and inexpensive process to have it dipped in Rhodium (this is the same metal used to plate platinum rings). You will have to have it replated every few years as the yellow will eventually show through, but it’s one way of making the rign your own without ruining it.
Post # 25
Miss Velveteen – I think you hit it on the head. Although I’m not sure what those expectations are, for some reason they haven’t quite settled yet with reality, which ultimately makes me feel SO guilty for being ungrateful. I think at one point he had asked me my preferences and I had chosen things.
Post # 26
I love that my ring is passed down from an awesome successful marriage. How much more meaningful could it get? Then again, I am not a jewelry person and I am pleased my ring is small and plain.
Post # 27
One thing you can do is take the diamond out and use it in a different setting. Your mom may be totally okay with that, and the diamond is the most expensive thing about an engagement ring!
Post # 28
Cherish it! Your ring is beautiful and you have a good looking diamond! To me it looks somewhat like an oval cut which is very beautiful but I can only tell slightly from the side. You can always reset it to your liking and not spend a lot of money. I am a huge fan of the solitare setting. Sometimes less really is more! You can always play it up with your wedding band.
I, since I was a little girl, wanted my moms ring that my dear Grandmother made for her that had her diamonds from her ER and wedding band and her husbands wedding band who was killed in WWII, she set it into a a beautiful ring all togethor. My Mom treated my GMA with no respect or love, was very selfish and I adored my Grandma and always had a love and respect for my Grandfather even though I never knew him. Well, my Mother, pawned it and 20 years later, I still hold onto that in anger. If I had that ring I would cherish it and pass it on to my daughter or grandaughter.
Post # 29
I would have LOVED an heirloom ring! We didn’t have any in my family 🙁 However, I’m also happy that I got to pick out something I adore, so I get to see both sides of the story.
Coconut, I think your ring is beautiful!! I think the idea of resetting the stone is a good one, or just make sure you pick out your dream wedding band 🙂 The stone looks gorgeous and that’s the most important part, in my opinion!
Post # 30
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
Oh how romantic! I know you said that the yellow gold looked a little strange; have you looked into having it dipped in white gold or something like that? My sorority sister’s husband used her mother’s engagement ring…but he had it dipped in white gold because the original setting was yellow and he didn’t think it was “her.” The ring looked great – brand new…and it was “hers,” as well as being an heirloom! I thought that was really sweet.
Post # 31
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception
@coconutmellie–even if everybody else loves the idea of an heirloom ring, it sounds like you don’t love this particular heirloom. I think you should do what feels right to you. I can definitely understand how you feel ungrateful by wanting to speak up that it’s not really your taste, but if you really don’t love the ring, it’s also a bad feeling to be kind of bummed out whenever you look at it. How would your mom feel about you choosing a new setting, but using her original diamond?