Post # 32
@ MissGreen – oh wow, I’d be pretty upset at that too! What a touching history to your Grandmother’s ring, I’m so sorry 🙁
coconutmellie – don’t feel bad for being disappointed/thrown. I think you should be honest with yourself, and see if you can figure out what the root of your feelings is. I also think you should give it some time – a week or two – and let your emotions settle down (I mean, you just got engaged!! Congratulations! That’s awesome. Plus who knows, you might come to love the ring?) and then see how you’re feeling. If you would still honestly prefer something else then maybe you could suggest resetting it, or something. Do your think your fi and/or mother would be upset if you suggested that?
Post # 33
I’ve begun the process of considering another setting – talking to my mother, seeing what she says. I feel like placing the diamond in another ring (all I would want is a white gold solitaire that would stack well with my wedding band) would be a waste of good gold and… would be defeating the purpose of “heirloom.” I’m not sure – I don’t get a comfortable feeling about it.
But I’m starting to talk to her about it – I have no idea how I’m going to be able to stack my wedding ring with the current setting – the prongs stick out quite a bit due to its unique shape. I wonder how I can manage to find a band…
Another strange thing – I bet few have this problem- I have no information about the diamond. I don’t know any of the 4 C’s, not even how many carats. Do I want to know? Or will I just get a complex over it?
Post # 34
An heirloom ring is very special and meaningful. My mother decided to give me her pear center stone from her engagement ring and my grandmother even offered her marquise center stone from her engagement ring. It was so sweet that they both offered, and I had not one, but two choices of stones. I ended up choosing my mother’s stone only because even though the marquise was a larger stone, it had a little chip in it. I ended up setting the pear shaped stone in a micro pave setting with paves on the band. I absolutely love it! I guess this is my something “old” I am wearing for my wedding. Resetting my mother’s stone also saved my fiance big, big bucks too. He avoided having to finance a ring, so he’s happy.
Post # 35
we chose together but only because there were no rings to be passed down! so we went to a jeweler than specializes in estate jewelry. your ring is gorgeous and you are lucky that your mom would give her blessing to your guy by giving him the ring to ask you!
Post # 36
I spoke with my mother regarding the ring and changing the setting or color and she was actually uncomfortable with the suggestion. I didn’t hurt her feelings, but I felt like if I pushed the issue I would.
So, it seems like I will have to settle for the yellow, and thus a yellow wedding band. I’ve never liked yellow, but maybe I can convince myself that this is a very special ring, etc. I haven’t found a yellow or two-tone that I’ve liked at all :<
Post # 37
I think a ring that has a history behind it is incredibly romantic!
Post # 38
Why don’t you have it dipped like someone mentioned above? It’s the same ring at that point.
And your mother’s feelings on it shouldn’t dictate what you wear. She gave it to your Fi to give to you. and if you don’t like it, YOU DON’T LIKE IT. Plain and simple.
Do you know what specifically you would prefer? I would have it plated if you want white gold. I wouldn’t want yellow at all, either.