(Closed) He’ll be ready to get married… in two years?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

*hugs* I saw the post about your fight, that really sucks but I’m glad his mom likes you so much! We’re having a super short engagement- probably 5 months! Hopefully that means its coming soon!

Post # 4
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) a few months ago M told me we would be married in 18 months.  Does he understand that you want a long engagement? or does he think that he’ll pop the question and you’ll be married immediately?

Post # 5
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1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

tacos – that’s a tricky way of putting things. what does he mean by “ready to get married”? if he needs two years to mentally prepare himself to get married, that’s very sad! but hopefully it means that he actually wants to be married it two years, which totally works with your timeline!

Post # 7
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I mean everything I’m going to say with sweetness and from the point of view of someone who also can’t wait to be engaged….

Don’t read into his words because you won’t know for sure and it sucks to keep out hope. The only thing you know for sure it that right now he is not ready for marriage.

Instead of worrying about what his words might mean, enjoy your time with him and getting to know him. Keep in mind that as much as you want to be engaged, you still have not even been together for a year. Enjoy the “newness” of your relationship, and enjoy him.

And in this time you will be able to learn about yourselves as a couple, how to give up what “I” want for what “we” want. You want a two year engagment, but maybe that’s not what he wants.

The fact that his mom is so into you and getting to know you is a very good sign. It shows that he loves you and is serious about you. Hold on to that thought when you feel frustrated about the lack of a proposal, and then come here to vent away!

((Hugs))

Post # 8
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I second CurlyDreamer!

I think it is wonderful that you have met such a great guy and that you are happy and want to spend the rest of your life with him but he is not ready for marriage!

This in no way means that he does not marry you! Mr. M knew he wanted to marry me from the very beginning but he wasn’t ready to be married until this past year (even though I was ready 2 years prior). 

All I know is guys don’t propose until they are ready for the marriage not just an engagement and the best thing I could do was wait for Mr. M to be ready on his own terms…. even though I went crazy in the process πŸ˜‰

At least you have the hive to help you through πŸ™‚

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