Post # 1
I’m 24 y/o Gloria from Wisconsin. Our 4 year dating anniv is next month and we recently got engaged (as of the 4th of July). We’re going to have a bbq style barn wedding next summer and I couldn’t be happier.
My question is this: We went ring shopping (and purchasing!) back in Feb so since then I (we) have been planning how we want things, what we want, etc. and already know so much of the details. For example, I have the dress picked out, what glasses we want to order, a sign to order, etc.
Would you order things early or wait and follow the traditional engagement/wedding planning guideline? I’m a big planner/worrier so I’d love to get things “checked off” and not have to worry about it but part of me says there’s timelines to follow for a reason.
Any advice? Anyone start the guts of planning things earlier than necessary? Would you do it again?
Post # 3
Welcome! Since you are getting married in less than a year, it isn’t too early to really start planning. You just don’t want to start much earlier because you tastes might change.
Post # 4
Hello fellow bride from wisconsin!
I purchased a wedding book and looked at the timeline in it…. i have many things checked off already
- Booked Reception Venue
- Booked DJ & Singer (for during dinner)
- Booked a Photographer
- Spoken to the Caterer, just gotta send back the food list and a deposit
- Spoken to a couple florists
- Spoken to the hair salon (I was surprised, they told me I should book a hair salon soon because they are already booking appointments for next year!)
- Started Designing my invites (A graphic design background is lovely to have!)
- Chosen the colors for the wedding
- Bought my dress (I just went looking not expecting to buy a dress, but the dress found me and I couldnt walk away!)
- Started collected mason jars and vintage vases for the centerpieces
So I say start getting whatever you can done. I’ve done a few other things like designed my invites too. Ya never know what will come up and take away time for getting things done. Especially if you are a DIY bride like myself.
Where in wisconsin are you, if you dont mind me asking? Im in Eau Claire!
We also are doing a barn wedding! 🙂
Post # 5
It really depends on your area. If you are in a city, earlier the better. If you are in a more rural area, you have some time. Ask around and see what the norm is.
Post # 6
@Blooper13: Hello! I’m from the Appleton area. I’m excited to see another barn wedding-er (nice technical term, right?). I’m glad to hear you’re also working ahead, so to speak. I’d love to hear some of your details!
To be honest, I have insomnia issues from time to time (especially when there’s stuff on my mind that I can’t take care of/cross off yet!) and would really love to get started!
Post # 7
I am definitely of the mindeset of “the earlier the better.” Since you are about a year out, I think it is the perfect time to start planning! I started planning about 1.5 years in advance and don’t regret anything about it.
Post # 8
@RMBsbride: Oh for goodness sake, get started, Bee! Clearly you are itching to do so and by all means you should go for it! 🙂 Since you want a BBQ style wedding May 2013, I am betting lots of beautiful spring/summer items are already on sale, too. Enjoy!
Post # 9
I would book the venue, caterer, DJ/band if you’re having one, and possibly the host hotel (most won’t do bookings this far out). I would hold off a bit on the dress, as fashions change, your body weight may change, and most importantly your vision of your dress may change. I would also hold off on any invites to be in the bridal party, even for your BFF or sister or anyone. There are so many “dress regret” threads on these boards, and even more “bridesmaid/groomsman regret” threads, many of which stem from changes of style or changes of relationship that can easily happen when there are so many months before the actual event.
Post # 10
Great advice, thanks fish. I think I’ll definitely take your advice on holding off on the bridal party! I may order the dress, only because it’s ~ $150 and I guess I’d like to make sure it’s flattering on my body/looks as good in person. If my style changes dramatically in between now and then, it’s only $150 so I guess I wouldn’t complain (well, too much lol).