Post # 1
Is it ok to skip the weird head table thing? We have a very large bridal party (~15) all of them except one groomsman and my Maid/Matron of Honor are married and most of the spouses are not in the party.
I was in my brothers wedding and it felt ridiculos to eat in front of everybody. I’m a HUGE klutz and would end up dropping my plate, spilling my drinks and not getting a single morsel of food (that I paid for) in my mouth!
What are your thoughts and ideas for how to get around the embarassing head table situation…
Post # 3
We did a sweetheart table and some decorations in the front of the table so you couldn’t see us eat!
Post # 4
@Birdee106: +1 for the sweetheart table! Although, it is your big day so it is hard to dodge the spotlight all together.
Post # 5
I encourage everyone to skip the Last Supper-style head table. It feels dated and is uncomfortable for everyone. I also personally dislike the sweetheart table. I eat dinner with him every night… I want to sit with my guests and talk! So we’re sitting at a regular table with the Maid/Matron of Honor, her boyfriend, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and his wife (our tables are 6-person, anyway). The rest of the bridal party gets to sit with their dates and friends. It’s your wedding, so if you’re not comfortable with something, don’t do it.
Post # 6
Please do skip the head table, they’re awful. We had the bridal party sit at the same round table as us, because we didn’t want to sit alone at a sweetheart table (we have our entire lives to eat alone, we wanted to spend our wedding day with the people we loved who we don’t get to see every day!)…we only had 6 in our bridal party, so even with having the 6 of them, plus us and the one SO of a Bridesmaid or Best Man, it was a 9 person table…maybe split them up into a couple round tables, and either sit at a sweetheart if you want, or sit with one group of them? I despise head tables and think they should be outlawed from the planet imho bravo for being considerate and thinking about how you should let your bridal party sit with their SOs 🙂
Post # 7
@bride_MN_14: We had 10 bridesmaids, 10 groomsmen, a flower girl, and four ring bearers…it way way too many people for a headtable and I never liked that idea. I did not want to separate that many people from their spouses. I just mixed up the bridal party with other guests at the table based on who they knew or who we thought would get along well. We put ourselves with some of the bridal party and honestly only occupied those seats for about 5 minutes the rest of the night. We did not want a sweetheart table as we would rather spend that quality time with our friends. You can do what you want! It’s your day after all!
Post # 8
I’m still a little wedding illiterate….whats a sweetheart table?
Post # 9
The head table is totoally optional! Here are some alternatives:
1) Sit at a normal table with some of your bridal party members & their SO’s
2) Have a sweet heart table for just the two of you
We’re going with option #1 and we are putting our table in the MIDDLE of the other tables. That way it makes it WAY easier to assign tables to others, as we have more “good” tables that are close to the action. No one feels like they are in the back of the room. This worked relaly well at my sisters wedding.
Post # 10
@bride_MN_14: sweat heart table = a small table for just the two of you
Post # 11
I hate hate hate head tables. They look so stupid, it is awkward for you bp and their dates!! Sweetheart table!!!
Post # 12
You guys are AWESOME!! I’m glad I’m not being a party pooper by not sticking to some of these ridiculous traditions. I love the idea of sitting at a normal table having normal conversations with our friends and family we don’t see that often.
I like the theroy of a sweetheart (thank you for the definition) table because it would allow us to have lots of people talk to us throughout dinner but then again we are serving liquor so it’s probably a good idea to have food in our bellies!
I have over a year to think about this stuff but I know if I don’t start asking some of the questions now I’ll forget until a week before the wedding and then freak out….
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
You definitely don’t need a head table anymore. The last 8 weddings we’ve been to there hasn’t been one.
We are doing a revised sweetheart table with me and Fiance, Maid/Matron of Honor and boyfriend, and Best man and wife. That way we have company and they can chat with their dates!