(Closed) Hello.. bee in hiding for obvious reasons

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7408 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

That is ridiculous.  I would not be with someone who told me I could not have catch-up lunch with an old friend.

Post # 4
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

from your point of view, I understand and I agree it’s innocent and you should be able to go. BUT I know my Fiance would not be okay with this, for example.  You said you don’t have any other male friends? Then this would be very out there and hard for him to adjust to.  I know my Fiance totally trusts me but at the same time he still doesn’t like me hanging out with guys he doesn’t know. Sooo… Idk.  Maybe your friend could come over for dinner or you could all go out to eat one day?

Post # 6
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If my Fiance wanted to meet up for dinner or lunch with some chick out of the blue, that he hasn’t seen since he was a child….Ummm no. It’s not appropriate imo. Double date or something like that, but otherwise no. A lot of guys could care less if you are married, at all (and your husband knows that, I’m sure).

I think if your hubby has a problem with it, you should respect him and his wishes and not meet up with this dude from your childhood.

Post # 8
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think I’d be ok with being told I couldn’t do this either. What about all having lunch together?  That seems like a good compromise

Post # 9
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would be uncomfortable if my SO went out with another woman out of the blue whom I’d never met before. If he asked me to go out with the two of them to meet her I would be 100% ok with that.

Post # 10
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t see the problem with you catching up with an old friend at all, male or female. I mean seriously you want to have lunch with your old friend and chat, not get busy in the backseat of a car with him geez. I would make it clear to your husband that being able to catch up with your old friend means alot to you, it will be completely innocent, and that you would never do anything to jeopardize your relationship so he has nothing to worry about. If he still insists no it may be worth exploring more in councelling why he feels this way. I could see it becoming a bigger issue if not addressed.

Post # 11
2273 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would suggest a catchup WITH your husband there… Or even a group type thing… Ok maybe your husband would get bored with the reminiscing but then he knows that’s all it is.


Post # 13
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Definitely respect his opinion – he’s your number one! My Darling Husband and I have discussed these scenarios and have always said we’d invite the other to come along too. Ask your Darling Husband if you can invite this friend out for a simple lunch or maybe a drink and you can all get to know each other. Hopefully that would make your Darling Husband more comfortable and who knows! Maybe your Darling Husband and this old friend will really like each other!

Post # 14
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

OP, your post worries me b/c your man is sounding really controlling.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting to go have lunch with this old childhood friend.  The fact that your husband thinks it wouldn’t look right for you to have lunch with another guy is really odd.  I think lunch is completely benign.  Now if the childhood friend wants you to go with him to a romantic restaurant on a Saturday night or something like that, that’s different.  What’s wrong with getting lunch?? I just had lunch yesterday with a guy friend of mine.  NBD.

Post # 15
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree, I would pretty upset if my FH did not “allow” me to see an old friend – especially for something like lunch.

Post # 16
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@beinhiding642094:  You are going to have to go out to lunch with members of the opposite sex eventually, I know I do for work. They are friends as well. You guys might as well get used to this senerio now.

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