- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
My name is Elizabeth, and I’ve posted a few times, and figured I might as well introduce myself. I’m 22, in college to be a preschool teacher, 2 year olds are my favorite. I have been with my SO, Cody, for 7 years. He’ll be 23 in Sept. We’re exactly 6 months apart, it’s pretty fun.
We’ve been through a lot together, graduations, pets, death and buying a house. We met on a whim when his friend was helping me get some books out of my locker. He actually knew when my birthday was, and all this other stuff. We started to hang out and our first date he picked me up while I was in a fight with my dad, and I got in his (moms) car and sat down in a fit of tears and said “JUST DRIVE”.
We went to college together (applied separately, didn’t talk to each other before hand). We’ve gone through dorm living, separate apartments. College roommate melt downs. Dropping out of college, coming back. And 5 years later Cody has graduated with a BFA in Graphic Design. He’s now freelancing for a company, teaching a class, and also doing construction.
When we would talk about forever, it was always playful. Until his mom started to get sick with her breast cancer. She had gotten diagnosed right after we had gotten together, with stage 4. I lost my mom 2 years before we had gotten together to brain cancer. So I knew this was going to be a hard road for him and I. She had chemo, radiation and surgeries. Her and I became close because she had 2 sons and no daughters and I’m dating her oldest son, so her younger one hadn’t really started dating.
So fast forward to 2 Christmas’ ago (2009), his mom and I had started to talk and she asked me about us getting married. I knew before then that Cody was who I wanted. So her and I kind of fantasized about what dress I would have, and how she would be my “mom” for the wedding, and how she approved and she was so happy to be able to plan a wedding since she didn’t think her younger one would get married.
In April, his mom passed away. It was pretty hard for him and his family, I kind of stepped back from it all. He and I started fighting alot and I had to come to terms with myself. I internalized her death as it was the death of my own mother again.
So here recently I’ve been struggling with myself with giving him some sort of control in the house that we live in, as I’ve lived on my own since I was 16. And basically lived on my own at 13 when my mom died as my dad really stepped back from being a dad. And I’ve been talking with a therapist and doing better. So now, we started talking again about getting married, he and I. And he said that he just wants to get through the summer, and make sure he has a job come fall for him to make some money, since I’ll be going back to school full time come winter.
Thats my stories bee’s. Thanks for reading and listening. Y’all are great! Lollipops for everyone!!