(Closed) Hello! Engagement Planning! :)

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 2
Member
384 posts
Helper bee

Congrats and happy planning!

My partner and I have been together just over a year and a half and I proposed to her in November and she reproposed back a week later (as per our agreement!).  We’re both 28 so a little bit older than you two, and we will be getting married this summer.

It’s definitely a little bit easier for us because we both have “grown up” jobs and are financially stable but I think it’s adorable that you two are just going for it and I wish you all the best.

There are some great ideas here on saving money and still having an incredible wedding. YAY!

Post # 3
Member
3242 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oooh puuuurdy. Love it! And great story. Who cares if you are young? I was 22 when I got hitched to my man. I know ignorant straight people can be judgy but dont let buzzkills spoil ypur fun!! Gooood luuuuuck!!

Post # 4
Member
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian

View original reply
xstaticsummers:  awww! I don’t think it’s weird to think about proposing this soon.  Those rings are beautiful. I especially love yours though. Haha. I think it’s very sweet you took her style into consideration though. We wish you the best here at the bee and feel free to ask any other questions you have!

Post # 7
Member
3242 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

View original reply
xstaticsummers:  Yaaaay. We NEED pictures soon to be Mrs!!

Post # 8
Member
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Congrats!!! As long as you two feel ready as a couple don’t worry too much about what other people say/think! Young doesn’t necessarily mean not ready! I met my husband when he was 20 and I was 21 – we have been together ever since! We got engaged later but it wouldn’t have mattered – I was his and he was mine and that was that – when you know you know! Your rings are lovely and since you took her style into account when choosing hers you don’t have to worry that yours is a more traditional style πŸ™‚ who knows – maybe when you choose wedding rings you will go traditional band route and she will pick one something with a centerstone. πŸ™‚ happy planning!!

Post # 9
Member
2007 posts
Buzzing bee

How exciting!! The rings are so beautiful and classic. Congrats and happy planning!! xx

Post # 10
Member
6616 posts
Bee Keeper

View original reply
xstaticsummers:  Pretty pretty rings! I agree with all the PPs: I think it’s normal to think about and plan out an engagement. Try not to worry too much over feeling that you’re too “young”. When you know you have found your soul mate,  you just know. No matter what your age. My mom was 19 when she and my dad got married, and they are going on 56 years strong!

I also wanted to chime in because you mentioned being a little bit worried (that might not be the right word, but my brain is floundering a bit — long day) over having a long engagement. Don’t worry about that, either. You and your SO have to do what is best and what is right for the two of you. No one else matters. My DH and I had a much longer engagement than you are planning. We were engaged for 6 years.

Post # 11
Member
109 posts
Blushing bee

First of all, congratulations! I definitely understand your feelings that engagement/wedding planning can be confusing as a lesbian couple because there aren’t specific “roles” that you know you’re going to play – but that just means that you have more freedom to play it out however you wish. I knew at 21 that I wanted to marry my partner, and I’ve been fantasizing about engagement ever since. The timing just wasn’t right for us till this year. Try not to worry too much about being judged and enjoy planning your engagement/being engaged. We will likely have a long engagement as well, which I am looking foward to. I’m nearing the end of engagement planning (I’ll be the proposer since it means so much to her, though I’d like a ring someday as well!) and it can be nerve-wracking but very, very exciting.

Post # 12
Member
1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

View original reply
xstaticsummers:  Aww, congratulations on such an exciting time in your relationship! I think those rings are lovely, and a 2-year engagement isn’t that long at all! A lot of people these days are engaged for a year and a half, so two years really isn’t much longer, and when you’re young and in school it makes sense (:

Post # 13
Member
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Welcome, and an early congrats! What an exciting time πŸ™‚

Depending on how elaborate of a proposal you want to have, I think it makes sense to start planning early. If nothing else, it’s fun to look forward to.

I was 23 when my fiancée and I were engaged so a bit older than you, but we had been together less time. I think a long engagement can be great. In our case, we’ll have been engaged for just over two years when we get married next May. We got some weirdness about it from older generations, but people our age understood where we were coming from in terms of the longer wait. At the end of the day, you just have to let it roll off you… Only the two of you can know what’s right for your particular situation, and it sounds like the timelines are also impacted by immigration stuff.

I ended up getting my fiancée a “wedding band” as her engagement ring as well – and it’s super plain, with just one tiny diamond in it! I think some people thought it was weird, but she loves it to death. I’m sure your gf will appreciate your thoughtfulness around her taste.

In terms of engagement/wedding etiquette, I think half the fun is making your own rules πŸ˜‰ In all honesty, most people aren’t around a ton of same-sex couples so they have zero idea what to expect from the two of you. It can be SUPER liberating when it comes time for making wedding plans! I feel pretty comfy throwing tradition out the window as we need/want.

We actually ended up proposing mutually – she didn’t know I was going to, though. I knew it was coming and we’d always said she would do the proposing, but at the end of the day it was important to me to feel “equal” (not that you both need to propose for that to happen, but it’s what I needed to do). She’d cooked me a four course meal, laid out candles and had fairy lights and the whole shebang. We had an amazing night, she asked me, I said yes… And then I went and dug out a scrapbook I’d made her with a ton of our photos and a letter broken up over all the pages. The last one just said WILL YOU MARRY ME? with her ring in a little envelope. She was totally surprised; it was awesome πŸ™‚ Basically what I’m saying is… Do whatever feels right for you, and for the two of you. Enjoy this time. Other people can doubt or judge all they want, but at the end of the day, it comes down to what’s in your hearts.

The topic ‘Hello! Engagement Planning! :)’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors