Post # 1
I think I have an emerging groomzilla on my hands and I need the hive’s help!
Here’s the story… My fiancee tells me months ago that he has a “vision” for his attire. I thought that was great – he was excited and I liked his ideas. Fast forward to now…we FINALLY have his suit (after he tried on I swear 50 or 60) because he was soooo particular. He wanted a vest and matching pant. Had to be gray – not too light, not too dark. Back of the vest couldn’t be a color or too shiny. I mean is this a wedding dress?!
So, I was very excited that we found his suit and we went shopping yesterday to get a shirt and tie. I go in thinking white shirt, rust tie (to match the bridemaid dress). Oh no….apparently his “vision” includes only a light gray or TAN shirt. And all the ties are too orange. Umm- gray or tan?? You have to be kidding me. TAN?!
I proceeded with caution as I didn’t want to break his spirit, but pushed the white shirt a bit, saying it would look the most sharp against his suit and tie (at this point I conceded to letting him get a green tie). His response? and I quote…”I don’t want to look sharp.”
We ended up not getting a shirt (because he didn’t find any that matched his requirements), and I gave an inner sigh of relief. But now I have no idea what I am going to do. I just can’t see this gray on gray or gray on tan looking good.
Got any ideas ladies? And yes, I have already thought about accidently bleaching whatever shirt he does buy!
Post # 3
lol he’d probably make an emergency trip to get a tan shirt before the wedding! Do you have the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress? Maybe take it to him and put it up against his tux idea. Then he can visually see how that may look bad in pictures?
Post # 4
@MissCallieJean: yep, I think he would totally do that. I don’t have the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, only a picture of the Maid/Matron of Honor in it.
Post # 5
can you get a swatch? sometimes guys just need that visual. They just don’t see the big picture! lol (i know mine doesn’t until he can acutally see it right in front of him!)
Post # 6
OMG, he sounds like my Fiance. I’m sorry you are having to go through this! <3
Post # 7
At least your buy is better than mine! Haha. Mine is looknig around for a tux that has the really long back. I forget what they are called, but I want to laugh inside. But he’s excited, I just let it go. I don’t think it matter what he looks like or if he matches the bridesmaids. What matters is that he is excited about the wedding, and wants to look as he imagined he would on the big day (just like us brides with our dresses)
Post # 8
OMG!!!! I would die! Don’t we women have the final say in what they wear that day? My man is feeling the same way about that decision and he is the one that should make the choice. Whom really does make the final decision?? Also, gently tell him that the color doesn’t go well and that he should consider something else. The swatch idea is a good one too. Good luck!
I’m dreading taking my man shopping for tux’s. I think he wants to go w/my dad and that’s NOT much better!
Post # 9
Swatch is a great idea – thanks gals. Hopefully that will work. Oh, I totally forgot to mention that when he started getting defensive about the gray/tan he asked – “this is OUR wedding, right?” to which I promptly replied – “No, it’s my big day, duh.” I was kidding (sort of)!
Post # 10
Why don’t you compromise? A very light grey shirt would actually look good qwth a darker color of grey suit.(and it would beat the heck out of a tan shirt!)
Maybe then he would go for a tie that incorporated a bit of the rust color.
Post # 11
@wyomingbride: Ok … I am dealing with the same crap right now! THE SAME …. I just had a breakdown because he is being a primadonna.
Post # 12
@CrystalBlackheart: oh man – I feel your pain! take a deep breath and decide to tackle another day!
Post # 13
I’m liking the grey suite but Im with you a tan shirt will NOT look good….but maybe a really light grey, dont worry if you really hate it do the pics with him black and white and youll never know, also inlist the help of his friends,,,just get them all to mention how great a white shirt would look…good luck
Post # 14
Show him what thats going to look like.. He is probably not realizing and doesnt realize his “vision” isnt going to be visually apealing.
Post # 15
All I can say is I sympathize with you. Mine is sooo picky about stuff. We haven’t gotten to the suit/tux yet, but I am dreading it. He wants a brown suit or tux. I guess it’s fine as long as it’s DARK. But really… I was so excited that he cared and now I am wishing he was the “just tell me when/where and I’ll be there” type. Ugh. Sorry, hon. I feel ya!
Post # 16
Aww, I totally feel for you. My fiance is the same way. He has an opinion on everything… he wants all of his Groomsmen to wear white (not tuxes, but traditional filipino wear). I’m trying to compromise, but not sure how.
Let me know what ends up working for you!