Post # 1
How did I not know about this board until now!!! My goodness!
This is wonderful 🙂 I can’t believe our weddings are 4 months away- mines 4 months today!!!
I am so excited!! I have been pretty stress free during the planning thus far, but a few things are starting to stress me out a little.
My maid of honour and sister never ordered her dress I found out…well there’s a chance it may not get here in time now because it’s an alfred angelo and they are really backed up on orders right now. I went into a salon, paid for and ordered her dress. I haven’t recieved a thank-you and she’s shown zero concern that it may not be here in time. I am so upset because it just proves that my wedding and her being my Maid/Matron of Honor is not a priority or care to her. 🙁 We usually are really close, but this I feel is just tearing us apart. She never asks about anything or how anything is going. She missed our bridesmaid day where the girls picked out and purchased the dresses. She got super drunk at our stag and doe, gave away free alcohol and fought with me, making me cry. She says she’s planning my bachelorette, however my girls say she won’t reply back to them on anything. OK, wow…sorry about my rant! It feels good to get that off of my chest tho!! I planned on writing something fun and positive about our upcoming weddings and it turned to a vent- haha, sorry! I’ve tried to talk to her about this but she just gets defensive and ends up hanging up on me, so I am at a loss right now!
Hope everyone else is having a more positive experience with their MOHS!!
Post # 3
Yay for being 4 months out exactly! I’m 3 months and 17 days out according to one of my countdowns! =) And welcome to this section of weddingbee — it’s great to talk to fellow October 2012 brides and get feedback!
Now onto your vent — I’m really sorry your Maid/Matron of Honor is acting like this. I’m sorry you had to go ahead and order the dress for her and there’s a chance it may not come in on time. Have you tried to talk to her about how you’re feeling?
My Maid/Matron of Honor is out of state but she’s been pretty great. She and I facebook message back and forth. She just got engaged and is planning to buy a house soon, so she’s been kind of busy, but it’s all totally understandable. She’s been a great help to me! She came to visit in April and we figured out dresses/DIYed flower girl baskets/and relaxed.
Post # 4
Better to vent here than to take it out on your Fiance…I am too sorry about your stress over the dresses and bridesmaids…I think that one of the best decisions I made was to just have no wedding party. I could not imagine having to worry about if everyone has their gear for My big day…I am still having a heck of a time finding shoes for my flintstone feet!!!
So rant away my dear…but remember most people have no idea that they are hurting us unless we tell them..and all we can do is speak our truth…what they do with it is on them…
Everything will work out exactly the way it should be…remember that *HUGS*
So that means i have 3 months and holy cow 23 days haha
postive thoughts your way sista
Post # 5
Thanks girls!!!! It sounds like both of your situations are working out well 🙂 It’s nice that your friend out of town is still making your wedding a priority! And not having to worry about anyone else for Your day is smart I might add!! haha..
I think I will talk to her this week and just hope it goes over well, it’s all I can do and if I don’t say anything then yah, I can’t be sure she understands how upset I am.
Thanks again Ladies, I appreciate it!!! xo
Post # 6
Hey date twin!!!! So glad you found our Boards! I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through that, that sucks! I hope things get better!
Post # 7
Date triplets 🙂
Sorry you’re going through that too. It definitely helps to be honest and upfront. I already had a bridesmaid flake on a brunch we had to meet the other bridesmaids. She is not the most dependable girl, but I love her dearly. I had to tell her that I was disappointed and that I need to be able to count on her through this stressful time. Good luck and hope it gets better!! 🙂
Post # 8
This is one of the reasons why I am not having a wedding party. If my brother comes to the wedding, he will stand up for me. Otherwise I am not having anyone.
Post # 9
Thanks date twins 🙂
I’m definitely going to chat with her. I just want everyone to enjoy it and have fun while being involved, well especially her!
Post # 10
My wedding is 15 days before yours and my Maid/Matron of Honor sister still hasnt gotten her dress and the Best Man, FI’s brother is the only one who hasnt gotten fitted for his tux. The two most important people in the bridal party aside from the bride and groom are the only ones who have been the least cooperative. I cant financially afford to buy my sisters dress, and the fact that she is constantly buying new shoes, getting mani’s and pedi’s and at the bar every weekend tells me she has the money to get it. Plus she has known about it since JANUARY! Makes me soooo irritated!!
Post # 11
@blue_eyed_bride: Wow, our situations are too similar!!! My sister is the same way…I see this through her facebook photos and updates! My sister has known about the dress since February but I told her to start saving 10 bucks a paycheck from when I frist got engaged because I knew this would happen- haha. Oh we can only do so much eh!! Still waiting for her to pay me back. Suppose to today, we’ll see!!!
I feel for you in your situation!!! Hopefully it gets better 🙂