(Closed) Hello South Asian Brides!

posted 9 years ago in South Asian
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Hi rasgoola!

Like yours, my FH is not Indian.  He’s a British Isles mutt, but mostly Irish and some Welsh…though his family’s been in the US for a few generations.  Coincidentally, however, my BIL is an Irish/German mix.  

We’re getting married August 1 back in Michigan where I grew up (we live in CA now).  We’re having a "fusion-y" wedding.  The ceremony will be more traditionally Western, though non-religious.  We’re having a Sangeet the night before, though…and we’ll have a mini Baraat to kick it off (which interesting I’ve now seen people do for full Indian weddings).  I’ve been undecided, but it hink I’ll be having a mehndi ceremony also.  And we’ll have several of the smaller family events earlier in the week…my FH and I are not religious in practice but I was raised in a pretty devoutly Hindu family and it’s really important to my Mom to have a havan.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Hello fellow Bees!

 

My fiance is also not Indian, though I am.  He’s Sri Lankan!  When we started dating, I thought "Hey, that’s close enough.  It’s still South Asia.  Their customs and culture can’t be all that different."  Yeah, I was wrong.  So, for the last several years that we’ve been dating, I’ve gotten exposure to the wonderful Sri Lankan culture and I’ve been sharing mine with him.

 

My fiance is Buddhist and I’m Hindu.  We’ll be having both ceremonies in Chicago in May 2010.  I was important to me to respect not only my family’s traditions but also those of my fiance so we opted for the different ceremonies instead of doing one.  (Although it’s becoming a logistical nightmare so doing one is looking more appealing right now!)  He’s looking forward to the Baraat, sitting down first after the pheras (presuming that he actually will), and keeping his shoes away from the girls.  I’m looking forward to wearing a veil!  Other events we’ll be doing include a Garba, Ladies Sangeet and Mehndi, Grahshanti, and Homecoming.

 

Good luck with wedding planning and looking forward to hearing about it!

Post # 5
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Newbee

Hi!  Me too – Indian marrying an American man of Welsh/Irish descent.  We’re getting married in October in the DC area, and are planning back-to-back Christian and Hindu ceremonies (no break, I’m wearing Indian clothes for everything).  We’re probably going to do a family mehndi night a few nights before the wedding, a very small Sangeet at home the night before, an abbreviated baraat, a Christian ceremony, 15 minute break, Hindu Ceremony, Cocktail Hour, and then full dinner reception!  And then, of course, an after-party at our favorite bar ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Hi there! I’m a South Asian bride too, I’m Indian and my FH is Guyanese. We compromised with having a small wedding…I wanted a small wedding and he wanted to slope. So now, we’re having a very small wedding of ~200 (ceremony, cocktail hour and dinner reception) and a mehandi the night before of my close family and friends. The wedding is going to be an Indo-Canadian fusion and I’m desperately trying to figure out if I should wear a red lengha or a white dress!

I am looking forward to planning and celebrating with my family and friends and of course, hearing about your plans too! Good luck all!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ok I see a pattern of Indian’s marrying Irish people. Well I am the Irish one and my fi is Indian. We are blending our cultures into the reception and he is having the traditional Sikh ceremonies before the wedding but we are not doing a Sikh ceremony. We are having a Catholic ceremony.

Post # 8
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Newbee

Hey bees!

I was born South African but my family is of Indian descent and my fiance is a fabulous mix of French/Irish/English heritage. I am Hindu and he is Catholic…to make things really easy we decided to go the route of getting married at the marriage bureau with a small wedding reception for our immediate families and close friends. We’re trying to figure out how we can infuse some of my South Asian heritage into the wedding reception so I will be looking out for ideas here. Right now I’m thinking of a beuatiful Indian outfit for the reception as a starting point. We’re getting married in September this year and the advice here has been invaluable in the planning process. I can’t thank everyone enough for all the great tips and information!!

Happy wedding planning all!  

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hi Bees! I’m Sri Lankan and I’m marrying an American of Irish descent – I do sense a pattern here!  Both of our families are Catholic so we’re doing a Catholic mass and pretty traditional reception.  My parents wanted to do a Sri Lankan/Buddhist ceremony too but it would have added a significant cost and it’s not like we’re actually Buddhist so it felt like overkill.

Post # 10
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Newbee

Hi There,

I’m Pakistani and FH is Indian… had tough time getting my family to accept him. His family on the other hand had been fine besides the Mother-In-Law making remarks about me not being vegetarian once in a while…

We are getting married in Dallas in Sept 2009 .. thats where my family lives and we met, however I live in Scottsdale AZ and he is in Kansas City MO. It’s tought planing a long distance wedding..

Anyways nice to meet all of you ladies

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Hi ladies! I am of Sri Lankan descent and my soon-to-be hubby is part Irish/English descent! Whoa there is a pattern! =)

He is Catholic but not practicing really, so we are going to have a Sri Lankan/Buddhist ceremony but I want to try incorporate some aspects of an American wedding as well.  

 I am going to wear a white sari and he is gonna wear a suit.  

 Anyone from Maryland? 

 I am having a hard time figuring out how to have a Sri Lankan/American wedding…

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hi All!  I’m new to the bee … this looks like the perfect post for introductions  ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m of Irish/German descent & Fiance is Gujarati Indian.  We’re having a Hindu wedding in Phoenix, AZ in October 2009.  We live in DC, but I’m from Phoenix.

Nice to meet you all!!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hi South Asian brides to be! I guess I’m the exception because I’m Indian (from Maharashtra) and the Fiance is Gujarati. Our wedding is exactly 1 month away. We live in Connecticut. If you girls are early in the wedding planning process, feel free to email me w/ questions. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Looks like there are a lot of South Asian + other multi-ethnic weddings happening here! ๐Ÿ™‚ Mine is a really big mix – I’m second generation Pakistani (my dad came here from Karachi), but my mother is of Eastern European descent, and my fiance’s family is (mostly) Scandinavian. We’re having a predominantly Jewish ceremony (my mother’s influence!) with strong South Asian "flavor"… and I’m still trying to figure out how we’re going to incorporate his background!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

How fun! I am of Dutch/German descent and my fiance is 2nd generation South Indian. We are both Christian so we’re sticking to a Christian ceremony and simply infusing South Indian traditions in here and there. We’re doing a mangalsutra necklace (is that how you spell it?) and having the bridesmaids wear dresses with a sari-type shawl around their shouldes. I’m wearing a saree for the Rehearsal Dinner (YAY)! Hopefully we can get some Indian food as well, but we’ll see!

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