- 7 years ago
I think it’s finally time to introduce myself and give a little back story on me and my relationship. I’ve posted here once before, but I wasn’t really quite ready to dive into the waiting process. Now, I think I am. I’ve lurked here quite a bit, so I’ve learned a lot about you guys, and it’s my turn to contribute.
My boyfriend and I have been dating 2 years and 9 months. I’m 24; he’s 29. We’re both graduate students. We don’t live together, probably mainly because my parents wouldn’t approve, and secondly, because I would feel a little weird being that intertwined with a guy I wasn’t engaged to.
The last time I posted here, we hadn’t talked about marriage yet, and I was asking for advice on how to bring it up. Since then, we’ve begun talking about the future some, and it’s clear he thinks of me as a part of it.
We’ve discussed future moves with relation to our careers (which won’t happen for another 3-4 years for him; probably 5 years for me), and he’s made it clear he wants me to go with him when I can. In the context of refinancing his house, he’s also made it clear that in the 1-2 years of long distance relationship that would eventually happen (because of being in different years in our respective graduate programs), I would probably move into his house and take care of it, which would save us both money. I conjecture here that he wouldn’t trust me to do this unless we were engaged or married.
Every day he tells me how much he loves me, how special I am to him, and how wonderful his life is just because I’m in it. And honestly, I love it. Every second of it. It’s really great, because it feels like life is both moving forward and relaxing some for both of us. And the relationship is super easy because of it. And I’m lucky, because I love him and I know he loves me.
So basically, I think I’m ready to begin waiting, (not as a chore or even something to be anxious about; I’ve got time to spare), but because I’m pretty sure that he’s the one for me. And that makes me smile.
So yeah, any advice or any comments back would be appreciated from those who are farther along in this process of getting engaged and married. I’m just getting started.