(Closed) “Hellooooo out there”—-A Discussion on the Content of This Board

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 61
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Helper bee

I think like other PP stated a big topic for the 20’s is the theme of balance.  It’s the age where you learn how to balance relationships, work, home life, family, and often, children.  Where 30’s and 40’s ladies have been doing this for years, we’re just learning.  I know every day I complain about there not being enough hours, or ::gasp:: I realize that I’m indeed getting older and starting to run out of steam.  (Can’t pull the 4 hour nights of sleep anymore… )   

Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@phoenix718: haha!  Good point,  For me it was when I became so protective of my weekend that I couldn’t tolerate spending a day hung over.  Yep I’m not old but certainly not as young as I once was. 

Post # 63
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@phoenix718: I think the “not enough hours in a day” is a common complaint.  I’ve heard that amongst my generation and those younger. 

I guess I’ve always had a different outlook.  I didn’t really “get a life” until I met my Fiance when I was 22.  Even then, my late nighters didn’t start until about three years ago. 

I definitely think there needs to be seperate “catagories” amongst the 20-something board.  College, kids, relationships, errrrrr… I know there’s other stuff that could be added on.

Post # 64
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m 28, when I log on I usually go to the main board to see if there’s anything interesting, then lurk the ring & dress boards Smile I’ve only clicked on the 20 something boards a couple times period, but I agree that I’ve seen alot of the emotional posts about girls being critisized for getting married too young…. I guess I can’t relate because my wedding planning hasn’t included anything specific only to my age (which is why I have no interest in the 20 something boards). I will say that I agree that from 20-30 there are some major changes going on in a person. I am COMPLETELY different, and yes, more mature than I was in my early 20’s (and I thought I was completely mature then!). Everyone is different though, and I respect that. I’m not saying I won’t ever post or can’t relate at all, it’s just not what I’m drawn to on here. You ladies have brought up some excellent points about our age group though, made me think about how 5 years ago feels more like 20!

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I haven’t read this whole thread but I just wanted to say HI! I am 24 but honestly NEVER been to the 20 somethings board.

Post # 66
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Helper bee

I’m 27 and even though I had a job in my career and my daughter at 23, and met my SO when I was 24, I feel like something “shifted” a couple years later and I started taking everything to a more serious level.  I became more self aware and less focused on myself and more focused on my role as a mom, significant other and boss.  It was all about the transition into growing into the roles I’ve made for myself. 

Post # 68
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i always feel out of place in this board.  i’m 27 and it seems like this board is actually only used by much younger 20 somethings and usually revolves around the old “am i/am i not too young to be married?” issue, which doesn’t apply to me.

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am going to echo what many other bees have said in previous posts and say that it can be difficult to relate to this board.

I am 24, and this is the first time that I have ventured over here. I’ve never gotten the “too young to get married” comments, but I can see how some of the brides that fall into the earlier 20’s would be frustrated over that.

I guess it’s hard for me to relate because I don’t really feel like a so-called “20-something.” I met my Fiance when I had just turned 19, graduated college at 21, and have worked my career job, bought a car, leased several apartments, started saving for a house, gotten engaged, and started planning a wedding.

In a way, this board often has a vibe that I just can’t relate to. There are too many transitions in your 20’s for everyone to fall into the same category. Maybe this board could be most effective if some of the folks on the younger side of their 20’s could gain some advice on the transitions that they will face in the next few years from the gals who have just been there?

Post # 70
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hi! I’m 22 and still in school. I never come to this board either– the only board I actively find is the May 2011 board. Aside from that, I just stay on the main board.

 

I think another reason people don’t post on this board as much is because, at least for me, I don’t want to be judged based on my age. “Oh, you’re a baby bride.” “Oh, you’re too young.” “Oh, blah blah blah.” We’re all here because we’re getting married/ getting engaged and we feel that we’re ready. I don’t feel like I should have to explain how I believe that I’m more mature for my age, or qualify that I’m ready to marry my FH because of all the fucked up shit we’ve been through, together and individually. So I don’t feel like I want to associate myself with a board that is constantly discussing age, and questioning “Am I old enough?” because I don’t relate to that question– I know I’m old enough, I know I’m ready. End of story.

If this board offered more than those questions, I’d be happy to visit more often and get to know the other 20-something members aside from just their ages.

Post # 71
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hi everybody!

I tend to lurk, but I’d like to get more involved too!  Here’s a little about me:

I’m 23 now, will be 25 when I get married.  I’m in med school, so wedding planning conforms around that.  But weddingbee is a wonderful tool of procrastination!

I’ve been inspired by everyone here to personalize our wedding, and I look forward to including meaningful details (ex.  I’m from MN, he’s from FL.  We met in med school.  We love games (anyone else having board games at their wedding?).  We love the outdoors.  Etc!)

Post # 72
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Honey Beekeeper

THANK YOU to those of you who have been posting fresh, relevant content to the 20-something boards. I am actually excited to visit now! It would be so amazing if we could start to generate more and more discussion about things other than being “young.”

I’m going to try to help revitalize these boards as much as I can!

Post # 73
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ok, so I really want to just say how much I agree with the fact that the 20 something boards should have more of a content than just how we are or aren’t to young to be doing whatever. I am a young mother as well as engaged to my daughters father. and I wish that I could go to the 20 somethings board and talk to other young women who are expierencing this wonderful time in our lives….

 

Post # 74
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Helper bee

Hello ladies! I just got engaged on the weekend woohoo! But I’ve been lurking and posting for the past year – mostly on the Not Wedding Related boards. I would be totally interested in talking to other people around my age (I’m 27) about what’s going on in a majorly hectic time in our lives! For me it’s a new job (~5 months), trying to buy a house, lots of travelling for work while trying to get at least a date chosen for our wedding.

I know that in my circle of friends there are people who are all over the place. People who are sooo single, others in serious relationships, some engaged, some already married, plus people in all different stages of school/career/parenthood in all kinds of crazy combinations.

I’d love it if this board got a bit more active! 🙂

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ll be honest, a lot of the topics I post on aren’t 20s-centric. I think because the average bride is in her 20s, there aren’t as many niche topics?

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