Post # 1
Where to start…my fiancé and i have been together for 5 years and engaged for7 months. We are planning a February 2012 wedding. Neither his nor my family has been very excited about the engagement (they all said congrats) but every time I bring up the wedding they change the subject or just smile and say yeah you have time. Since the 6 months is now, I do need to start planning the wedding but it seems I have no help or support. On top of that Iam a state employee/ my fiancé is a school board employee so our money is limited as to what we can afford (the lowest was 4,000). My mother and stepfather recently gave us the down payment for a house; so asking them is out of the question. I have asked my biological father a couple of times, which he stated he would, but recently when I called him and asked him to help since I have to start booking locations, he now ignores my calls or talks briefly then says he has to go and hangs up (so I assume he does not want to help or can not afford it, and at this point I do not really want to keep asking). Iam willing to put off the February wedding until possibly the summer, but can’t since my fiancé’s younger brother had to get engaged two months after us and is planning there wedding for that summerL. I going to be 30 in 4 months and do not want to be engaged for two years just because we can not afford a wedding. My fiancé wants a wedding for his family and is against a courthouse wedding. I would prefer a courthouse wedding in a few months and then planning a small family wedding for the end of next year, but he is completely against it. Please help…any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
If he wants something other than a courthouse wedding, he needs to get off his butt and help you. End of story. (((hug))) I’m sorry you’re going through this; your wedding should be happy!
Post # 4
I think a destination wedding is right up your alley – that way you only have to save enough for your dress, flight, stay and possible packages (which sometimes include your stay) – let his family pay their own way if they want to be part of your wedding day 🙂
Post # 5
I’m a palm beach bride and the venue scene is sparce and expensive, I feel for you !
Well ultimately it is up to you guys, but keeping in mind your new family is important since they will most likely be an integral part. Are his family against you in general or they just want to take their time?
The reason for a courthouse wedding soon would be for just to be married? or is there some advanadge like financial etc ?
I’d look into friends and families homes for a private reception and consider the beaches and stuff for a nice ceremony. Most churches are expensive !!
What ideas do you have so far?
Post # 6
Thank You!! I explained that to him so hopefully we can both agree, it is really stressfulJ
Post # 7
Yes WPB is pretty expensive, we are looking into the bontancial gardens, beaches etc… but it is hard to agree on something that is both inexpensive and classy…His family is not againts me…we have been together 5 years so his family and I had our up’s and downs but it is more the monetary reason for having a court house wedding.