Post # 1
I’m going to attend my first bachelorette party tonight and I’m so looking forward to it! The bride to be (whom I known for about 5 years) is really down to earth and not really a party person, so we’ll do mani/pedi’s and dinner. We’re all splitting her costs, but I wanted to give her something small as an extra gift. I like to bake, so I made her these (one each for every girl that will attend tonight, so a total of 9):
Now, I just walked outside to get the mail and started to talk to a neighbor. I mentioned that I was making this as a gift and she looked horrified and told me that underwear is considered the traditional gift to give a bride to be. So now I’m panic struck – I really don’t want to give underwear to this girl! I have no idea what size she is and I would feel SO mortified giving her that. It doesn’t feel like either her nor me! What should I do bee’s? Should I just scrap the cookies and give her underwear/something else or go ahead with my original plan?
Post # 3
I think the cookies are cute! I got plenty of panties and sexy gifts, but I would have loved cookies. Just be prepared that you might be the only one with a non-sexy gift, haha.
Post # 4
I don’t know about her but I love cookies! Those look great.
Bachlorette parties don’t always involve gifts, if no one’s said anything to you about it this one probably doesn’t.
Post # 5
@eocenia: I think those cookies are beautiful and I would love to receive them! Only one girl brought a gift to my party, a delicious bottle of wine. I wasn’t expecting anything as they paid my way throughout our activities.
Post # 6
OMG, no cookies are a great gift!!! I’ve only brought underwear to a bachelorette once when the bridesmaids requested it for a party game. I would never gift someoe underwear!
Post # 7
I think this is a fantastic gift!!!
Post # 8
I would love cookies! I got plenty of lingerie at my bachelorette and would have been happy to get something a little different.
Post # 9
@eocenia: The cookies are great! 🙂
Post # 10
@eocenia: I have never been to a bachelorette party where the guests brought gifts of any sort. It might be a regional thing, but we only went out and shared an activity together, whether that was barhopping, wine tasting or mani/pedis.
Your cookies are beautiful and the bride and the other guests will love them.
Post # 11
I think these are adorable! I’m in awe at how good they are! Considering this girl isn’t a party girl and you are just doing a girls day etc… I think these are totally fine, they’re thoughtful and I’m sure took a lot of work! Underwear is definitely NOT required, and especially not if there was no mention of doing a lingerie gift exchange in the invitation etc…
Post # 12
Keep the cookies !
Underwear ? O_o I hope it was a joke.
Post # 13
@littlemisst08: I’m pretty sure at least one of the other girls would rather die than buy underwear for someone else, so I hope to have company of at least one!
@Tigerlilybride: Thanks! No, the invitation didn’t say anything about other gifts – so I guess that I should be fine and that these would then be viewed as an extra bonus?
@MrsBeck: Thank you! Well, the invitation only mentioned splitting the activities – so after reading through the replies here I feel a lot better!
@jny1179: Glad I’m not the only one not feeling completely on the idea of buying underwear for someone else! Also, thanks for letting me know that it’s sometimes used just for games – I was really dreading having to guess her size!
@JenGirl: Thank you!
@MrsBot: Thanks for your reply! So, when you did get all that underwear – do you know if your Maid/Matron of Honor sent out your sizes? Because I’m just dumb struck on what size to get this girl if I actually were to give her underwear!
@julies1949: This is the first bachelorette party that I will attend, but I’ve been invited to two others (both which I couldn’t attend for various reasons) and for both of those we were supposed to bring some sort of small gift. Hence why I figured it was sort of mandatory. Glad to hear that that’s not necessary the case!
@MsJ2theZ: Thank you, that’s so sweet of you! I feel so much better after reading through all these answers. For a little while there I felt like the most stupid person on earth that had missed out on this underwear gift exchange!
@NauticalDisaster: My neighbor was dead serious. In a very “darn… little foreign girl doesn’t understand the social codes, I’ll have to enlighten her” type of way. :/
Post # 14
Those cookies are gorgeous! Too pretty to eat… She will love them I am sure. 🙂
Post # 15
@eocenia: If it was a “panty giving” type of party most times they would have listed her sizes on the invitation. This might not be true everywhere (since I’m apparently the only bee who’s ever seen registry information on an invitation GASP!!), but that’s the way I’ve always seen it done. No bra/panty size= please don’t give me undies.
Post # 16
Those cookies look AMAZING! Please bring those. Getting underwear as a gift from anyone but your SO is just awkward. I dont usually bring gifts for bachelorette parties but I do what you are doing and bring a little something for each girl. Last one I made penis shaped chocolate (but it was a risky themed party)