- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I am engaged to the love of my life. Our relationship is solid, we are fantastically and amazingly in love. We got engaged in February 2013 and have been planning a wedding to take place in February 2014. After what can only be explained as a whirlwind, we pulled the reigns back in and canceled the “small wedding” we were planning. At the time of cancelation, the wedding had grown from an intimate 40-50 people to an astonishing 300+.
After taking the time to breathe and look back, I realize we lost control about the moment we announced we were engaged. Everyone had ideas of what they thought our day should be and they started throwing in their input. People pleasers that we are, we started taking everyone’s input into consideration and our “small wedding” had turned into the terrifying wedding dragon that needed to be slayed.
A month past our cancelation and we are trying to finalize our wedding plans. Instead of getting the support of our closest friends and family, we are getting the same run around, forced opinions and guilt trips that led us to canceling the wedding in the first place. He and I just want to be married and want this chaos to be over with.
We decided to invite our closest friends and family to a nice restaurant for dinner. Those who show up could then join us afterwards for our vow exchange. I shared the plan with my sister/best friend and her reaction was to instantly try and tell me why this idea won’t work either.
I want to share my day with my friends and family, but feel as though the only way I will get to do that is if I cave in to what they want for the day. Any other B’s experiencing this ridiculousness?
We have seriously considered running away and inviting no one but this means not getting to have the people I genuinely want to share this occasion with…HELP!!! Talk me off this ledge, cause I can’t talk to the people in my life about it without the cycle starting all over again.