- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
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Marriages that begin before 25 are THREE TIMES MORE LIKELY to end in divorce.
You know why? Because you feel grown up, but you aren’t. You know how I can tell? Let me count the ways…
-You cannot seem to grasp the concept of delayed gratification. Instead of acknowledging the very real advantages of waiting to marry, you insist on ignoring them.
-You demonstrate a breathtaking sense of entitlement. You’ve come here asking for advice about how to sidestep rules to ensure your mother will continue to support you financially and provide you with insurance.
-You misunderstand the very nature of the step you are trying to take. Marriage isn’t about gratifying your love or making a romantic gesture. It is a commitment to a partnership which marks a departure from relying on anyone but your spouse.
-You wildly overestimate your own certainty about the future. You cannot possibly know if your boyfriend is the right person to spend your whole life with because NEITHER OF YOU have turned out to be who you are yet. Because that takes time and experience you do not yet have.
-You refuse to heed the advice of people who are much better equipped to comment on this subject. When the answer didn’t match your expectation, you responded with indignation that anyone might question your decision. You did this despite having SOLICITED these opinions.
I got married at 19. If I’d waited even 6 months longer, I wouldn’t have. I was 150% sure I knew what I wanted, that it was right, and all the people saying otherwise just didn’t understand.
I was wrong, and so are you.
Saying all of this, I realize you’re STILL GOING TO THINK YOU’RE RIGHT and that everyone is stupid and mean. You’re STILL GOING TO MARRY HIM. That being the case…
Getting married is an adult decision. It requires adult sacrifices. In this case, your free housing and insurance. If you aren’t prepared to pay that price, you need to rethink your plans and decide what’s most important.