Post # 1
Ok, so i had everything under control. I’ve shopped online ordering small items here and there to pull this thing together. Initially we were having 50 guests and we were going to pay to take them out to a buffet dinner, well now we have 90 people on the list. Everyone has not confirmed as the invites request 4/1/10 responses, but I fear now I don’t have enough money. I didn’t put on the invites what type of reception would follow because I didn’t want to have something in stone and it not happen. I am planning barbq chicken, pasta salad, string beans, meatballs, regular salad, and bread/butter, which is all being made by family, but we have to foot the bill for the food. Because my fiance wanted an all or nothing, we now have a dj, which is a family member also, and have found a hall for 300, but we haven’t gotten a callback from the hall to say that date is available. I know because it’s last minute the hall may not happen, which now knowing we’re really out of money, I don’t mind..except for one thing..the wedding is at 3pm and after we can go downstairs in the church hall to have a light meal/cocktail style meet and greet? but what food would I serve? pasta salad, regular salad, small sandwiches, wedding cake, punch??what else..i feel like a failure and my fiance said he didn’t want this to look tacky from the beginning and wanted to just go to the courthouse, but i have an 80 year old grandmother i thought deserved to see us married and to have my father walk his oldest and only daughter down the aisle, but considering we don’t have help from anyone to pay for this stuff..what do i do??? i will have to ask my dad for help but feel bad doing so because he helps us out so much already.. don’t people expect to be fed a sit down meal after a wedding? or should i just say hey at least we had something for you to eat?? this is a disaster!! what do i do??
Post # 3
Whoa, whoa, slow down. I felt like this. You have a couple of options that I found to be the most effective:
(1) Have a breakfast reception. If it’s not posisble to change your time, then call it brunch! This was a strong contender for us, as Fiance LOVES breakfast food. It’s often cheaper, and you can have a ton of variety.
(2) An h’ordourve’s reception. This one can get pricey if you’re not careful, but it can be done.
(3) A dessert only reception. This can work, and this was also a strong contender. You can make pies, cookies, have fruit, and cake. it doesn’t have to be expensive. You can do a lot of it yourself, in the days before the wedding and freeze it.
Most importantly, it does not have to be a sit down meal. It really doesn’t. You can take this opportunity to be creative with what you do have, instead of only having a sparse sit down meal, if you wish. Just make sure you consider all ofyour other options, instead of forcing a square peg in a round whole. If you can’t do it, that’s fine, give thought to what you CAN do instead.
Just slow down, take a breather, and let us know what you decide! <3
Post # 4
I agree – is the wedding fixed at 3pm? Or could you move it up to 1pm? Having a 1pm ceremony and then a cake and punch reception (or dessert and champagne, if you want to splurge a little) is DEFINITELY do-able! You can DIY a dessert buffet pretty easily, lots of cookies freeze really well, so you can start baking a batch every couple of days (different kind each time); do the cake the week of, ask aunts to bring pies – making 4 pies is only a tiny bit more work than making 1 pie, after all!
With a 2pm reception, you’ll have time for cutting the cake, doing a first dance (make use of that dj!), and a few toasts, without running into anyone’s meal time. If you want, you can meet up with close family for dinner after the reception (maybe leave around 5pm and meet them around 6:30? don’t leave together 😉 ), or younger friends for drinks at a bar later in the evening, if you want the party to continue. After the reception ends you can ask people to pay their own tabs, no problem!
ps – if you decide to go the dessert buffet route, let me know – I’ll dig up some great recipes for you!
Post # 5
I totally agree — think about doing a dessert reception! It will be something very different from what most folks are used to (I assume), so it will be very impressive, even though it will be a much lower cost option. You can do all sorts of great DIY decorations to jazz it up. It actually sounds like a lot of fun to me! I’d love to be a guest at an early afternoon reception in which all I needed to worry about what how many different types of cakes, cookies, and other treats I could eat! Perhaps all your family members could make and bring a dessert item for X amount of people, and you can make signs to designate who brought what. It would be a great community builder. I mean, heck, I would totally make cupcakes to add to your buffet!
I also second the fact that it definitely doesn’t need to be a sit down dinner. My fiancé and I are having a cocktail reception with only passed and stationary hors d’ouevres, and our guests are excited to experience something new!