Post # 1
I am on wedding #2 and hubby to be has never been married before.
We are eloping and then having a party at home.
Most of my friends are completly uninvolved and show little interest in even asking about the wedding/party.
I am so disappointed that I cannot share in the joys of me marrying the right man with my friends. Are they bad friends? Am I being selfish?
Post # 3
I hear you. Second time around for me, third for FH. Feeling the same thing – my best friend’s husband just got out of jail (white collar crime) and he was there for 1.5 years and SHE DIDNT TELL ME…my other 2 closest friends – one is going through a divorce, the other just went through one and her dad just got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and my cousin – who I want to ask be my Maid/Matron of Honor – just had a baby 2 months ago and then got laid off from her job the week she was coming back from maternity leave (and her husband hasn’t worked in 2 yrs). And my mom still pines for my exhusband. All ask occasionally about the wedding, but I feel funny bringing it up for the obvious reasons.
So I can’t really be excited with anyone. Now the good news is my FH is very excited – (and remember – it’s his third!). He called me today to tell me about the amazing quartet he booked for our music –
Hang in there. When I am excited I find one person who isn’t really down and talk about the wedding. Believe it or not, my future inlaws are excited too and very interested in our wedding plans. And of course there’s always the 6 year old who wants to hear about the fancy dress she’s wearing.
So, when is your wedding?
Post # 4
I suppose in the end its just you and him anyways. My FH is very excited as well, along with his parents. My mom says a lot of “well you have already been married before.”
We are gtting married this October and I couldnt be happpier about that.
I too sometimes feel akward bringing up the wedding. I almost feel like some people think I shouldnt be remarrying (catholic curse).
Are you having a destination wedding?
Post # 5
I don’t know if they are being selfish or if they are confused by the elopment. Usually elopements don’t require bridal parties, thus your family and friends may be confused about what it is you are looking for. It is hard for others to be happy about something they aren’t sure they are participating in.
Post # 6
Well we’re having a teeny destination wedding and then a reception after we return the following week.
It’s all in how you handle it.
It is both our second marriages btw. My family and friends are so happy b/c they know what I went thru and are happy to see me with who i should have been with all the time.
Our kids are thrilled, and sure, there are going to be a few naysayers in the lot, but these are people imho who are not happy seeing people get remarried imho. Some people might be a bit envious that you get to start over again and are in love you know?
That is what I’ve found. Always a few negative nancy’s in the bunch. Override it by being happy and being around those who are happy for the both of you.
Post # 7
@finallyfree: No destination wedding this time…My first wedding was a destination in Walt Disney World. This time we are getting married in our church on NYE. In the end, I am just going to enjoy the ride. I didn’t really get to do the real wedding planning the last time, and my FH is really getting into it now – he called me 3 times today to tell me about the quartet and potential musicians for the church.
And you know – I’ve found strangers are really interested – grocery store line etc…they notice my ring, ask me about the wedding and then next thing you know they’re telling me about a great florist they know…people love weddings!