- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I am so stressed out right now! My future MIL is making the bridesmaid dresses, I didn’t really get a lot of choice. When picking bridesmaids I got told I had to have my FI two nieces and his sister I wasnt keen but literally it was made out that if I didn’t I would have a hard time. Anyway the issue is I was told I had to look for material which I had to go to London for (didn’t need to but according to future MIL this was a must!) she told me on the way down I wouldnt find what I wanted! what’s with that! FI was deployed at the time I was stressed and by the last shop I couldn’t have cared less so ended up with ridiculously expensive fabric which I am so mad about because apparently FSIL wasn’t prepared to pay for her dress or her children’s so my mum ended up footing the huge bill £900!!! WTF right! Anyway still fuming about that as yes ok I could have said no but future MIL was insistent as was FSIL and I felt so fed up I hadn’t even asked the price but they moaned about the cheaper material. So ok we have this material which is lovely so I’m ok with that. I then have to find a pattern which will suit all of them. My sister is a body builder, another friend is short and kinda my sisters shape, and two I guess normal slim girls but then I have my FSIL and her eldest daughter who are both 6ft tall and are so skinny but with huge hips I mean seriously shelf like, so when I suggested different styles I was told couldnt really have that! So I feel the pattern is more designed for the two with wide hips and skinny. I have seen mock ups on my fSIL which look dreadful and if bad on her will be bad on the two larger short girls. FMIL won’t make a mock up for the other girls! She has also said I can’t change my mind again as we did come up with a design that sort of looked ok but thinking about it, it really doesn’t and is to young looking for my FSIL who is nearly 40.
So today I see a professional dress maker who tells me to go simple with the pattern for the tall skinny ones and that style would suit the two normal slim girls but that she would make the two dresses I need for my sister and my other short friend and she would add a chiffon overlay and make them look gorgeous. So the question is how do I tell FMIL I would like another lady to make two of my bridesmaids dresses because I want them in a diff style and need some chiffon which she doesn’t like to work with? I don’t want to offend her but she will be offended I know she will be and I don’t even know how to tell her to make diff mock up again after she told me not to change my mind and if I did I would have to find someone else! Thing is that would be a good outcome in my favour. I want them all to look lovely. My sister gets married this August and I seriously can’t wait to wear my bridesmaid dress as I love it and jealous she could order hers online and everyone love them! I refuse to let one style fit all as its just not possible! need advice on how to tell her I have changed my mind and if I am right to want another lady to do the other two dresses because she won’t work with the chiffon and because it is a diff pattern. Help please.