- 3 years ago
I work with a girl, “Natasha”. We had become friends after working together for just under a year. She was planning on moving into ther cousins new condo when it was finished sometime early 2014. She was living with a friend prior to this, but the living situation wasn’t working out. FI and I offered to let her stay with us until the condo was ready. It was a good deal, we could carpool to work, the rent was cheaper than what she was paying before, but the money also helped us out with wedding expenses. She moved in August 2013.
Everything was good, her new boyfriend (of two months at the time), “Kevin”, came over one night and the four of us had a games night. We drank- alot- and FI and Kevin went out to the garage and had a cigar each and Natasha and I had a blast in the house, blaring music and dancing in the kitchen. At some point, I realized I was very very drunk, and decided to put myself to bed.
The next morning, I woke up to my FI with a sprained ankle, bloody bruised nose, and a crazy sitation. After I went to bed, Natasha and Kevin had a very loud fight in the back alley. At about 2am, my FI was worried about the noise, and went outside to calm them down and at least get them to come in the house. Kevin got very aggressive and decided to leave- quite drunk- in his truck. FI was livid, that he would drink and drive was so irresponsible. Kevin came back after grabbing some McDonald’s, which annoyed FI- he didn’t want to deal with this guy who we had just met being a drunken mess at our home. Kevin and Natasha got into a fight again, she threw a sandwich ast Kevin’s face, he was screaming, and neither of them cared at all that it was almost 3am and we had a responsibilty to our neighbours to keep the noise down. FI and and Kevin started arguing, and Kevin sucker punched FI. After that, he put Kevin in a neck hold and tried to calm him down. It worked for a few minutes and then Kevin got even angrier and was louder than ever. At this point, a police helicopter flew over (quite low) and a minute later 5 cop cars had the three of them surrounded in the back alley.
One of our neighbours could hear two men fighting and a girl yelling “stop” etc. and were afraid someone was getting raped and called the police- hence the amount of police and the helicopter that scoped the area. The cops asked FI a bunch of questions but he didn’t want to get too involved (if it were me and I was awake during this I FOR SURE would have told the cops that he drove) and the cops drove Kevin home and told him and Natasha that they needed space and time to sober up. Natasha came back in, embarrased and went to bed.
I woke up to all this craziness. Natasha thought we were going to kick her out, but I just wanted to move on from it. I told her Kevin needed to apologize, and she wholeheartedly agreed. Kevin texted me to say sorry and told me that he wanted to man up and come by and tell my FI to his face that he was sorry for the whole thing. Well…. a month went by and he never came and said sorry. He was ashamed or something, and started sneaking in the house with Natasha after we had gone to bed just to avoid seeing us face to face. Eventually we had enough and I told Natasha that until he could actually own up to what he did and the shit he caused, he wasn’t welcome in our home. She agreed!
He never came back once! FI never got the apology he deserved and we never saw him face to face again. Natasha moved out a month ago to the condo, and we still work together everyday and have lunch once a week out. We don’t mention the Kevin fight, but they are still dating.
I gave her a save the date magnet (because she was living with us, there was no envelope with a formal addressee) but she mentioned to me the other day about her and Kevin finding outfits for the wedding.
My stomach just about dropped…. FI wants him as far away from our wedding (and the alcohol) as possible. But how do you tell a good friend who you see 40 hours a week… that she doesn’t get to bring him. I am sort of surprised he is even thinking about what to wear when he never even faced us after??
What would you do? Invitie him anyways? Tell her she can’t bring him- how do you even word that????