(Closed) Help! aka W.W.E.P.D.?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

wow, that’s a sticky situation!  I would see what your fiance can do about it. 

I had the exact opposite problem – my mom consulted me on every single decision concerning the shower!

edit: also, if your mom invited these 3 women without asking you, then it is her problem to explain to them why they are not invited to the wedding, I don’t think it is your problem

Post # 4
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Have you fiance tell her he compared it with your wedding guest list and found a bunch of mistakes.  That way she can’t be mad at you or him for showing you lol.

Post # 5
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Argh, how annoying and embarrassing! I’m such a control freak for this reason, no one will ever do anything as well as I can! (Mr. Roux has come to terms with this, lol. His job on our wedding day is to show up and look pretty.)

I think you asking to see the list is totally reasonable, and you had good reason because this could have been avoided!! If I were you I’d appoint Maid/Matron of Honor1 to be the middle man and sort it out, if she is hosting. Otherwise get Fiance involved. Whoever invited the 3 guests not invited to the wedding should have 2 choices, 1. Explain to them they aren’t invited to the wedding, or, 2. Cough up the cash to pay for them and their husbands plates at the reception.

Post # 7
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Ok, that’s ridiculous.  I was going to say – don’t tell your mom – but, I think some damage control needs to be done.  Are most of the guests with the wrong names friends of your’s or FI’s?  Depending on who they are, I’d think you need to let your mom know so she can apologize (as the hostess).

I think you can tell your mom what happened and let it out of your hands from there.

As much as you love Maid/Matron of Honor1 – that’s more than being sloppy.  Either something seriously went wrong during the mailing list merge – or ????  

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