- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
My shower is a surprise. Of course I know it’s coming at some point, but I don’t know when, where, etc. My mother & 2 MOH’s are treating it like it’s running the CIA or guarding the gates to Chernobyl or something. A few months ago Mom asked me for 25 names & addresses. From what I understand there were 3 lists combined into 1 for the guest list for the shower: mine, my mothers and FMIL’s. I asked my mom politely if I could just see the list before it was finalized only because I wanted to make sure we didn’t forget anyone. She refused.
I found out invites went out last week. How did I find out? Future Mother-In-Law called Fiance because one of his cousin’s didn’t get an invite & almost everyone else did.
One of my MOH’s (aka “MOH1”) is an art teacher and a graphic designer so she did the invites. Fiance emails Maid/Matron of Honor1 explains the situation and asks for the guest list because he wanted to check who else was missing. She emails it to him last night. He wasn’t going to show me, but he figured considering the circumstances, I better take a look.
- Many names are spelled wrong (Jane is listed as Jan)
- Many names are COMPLETELY wrong (Lauren should be Laura or worse Mary Smith-Jones is simply Mrs. Smith Jones as if Smith is her 1st name)
- There are people who were on my list that I sent who are NOT on the list Maid/Matron of Honor1 sent Fiance.
- There are at least 3 people on the list who are not invited to the wedding.
If I mention to my mother that I’ve seen the guest list, and detail which things are wrong – she’ll go BALLISTIC. She’d prob blame Maid/Matron of Honor1 and Fiance for showing me and then all hell will break loose.
I don’t want to seem ungrateful or like I’m trying to be all Bridezilla-ey and take the reigns on everything, but my hands are tied. We all know that etiquette states anyone invited to the shower MUST be invited to the wedding. Inviting 3 women to the shower who are not on our orig. guest list = 6 people added to the guest list when you take into account their husbands.
Fiance said he’s going to see if there’s anything he can do to fix it, but I doubt there is.
So my question to you ladies: How would you handle it?
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WWEPD? What Would Emily Post Do?