(Closed) Help! All my friends hate my dream ring :(

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
  • poll: Do you like this ring?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 31
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    1674 posts
    Bumble bee

    Bee, what you’ve chosen is a style that’s not commonly seen.  When a person defies fashion trends it is usually deliberate.  They want something no one else has, they want to be a step ahead of what they think will be popular eventually, or they just have specific tastes that they know are not with the the main flow and they enjoy wearing what they like rather than caving to mainstream styles.  Whatever the motive, it takes a certain amount of confidence to cast aside mainstream fashion trends and go forward with something noticeably different and noticeable while you wear it.

    For me, if I really like something, I will likely go forward with it whether or not others like it.  But not always.  I have to like it well enough for the experience to be worth people’s rude comments: “that’s different” with wrinkled nose, or “why did you go with that? Why not just get (what everyone else gets)?” If the comments are going to irritate me to the point that wearing or displaying the item (think home decorating) becomes a negative experience, then I’ll decline the item.  Luckily, I know myself well enough to be able to predict pretty easily whether comments will annoy me or if my joy in the item will be sufficient to drown out the possible annoyance of inevitable comments.

    I think you need to do some soul searching here.  Most people expect white diamonds, especially on the wedding band. And there are too many people who expect everyone to wear what everyone likes.  The comments will not stop.  I’ve been there, done that.  And if I liked what I chose, I’ve brushed off the comments and had no regrets.  What you need to ask yourself is, can you be happy wearing a wedding set EVERY DAY that most others around you will question and many might criticize?  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  If people complaining about your choice will spoil your enjoyment of it, then maybe you are a person who will be happier sticking with mainstream choices.  There is nothing wrong with getting what you love despite what your friends think.  But there is also nothing wrong with, after careful thought, concluding that your initial excitement for the item doesn’t outweigh the annoyance of the constant reactions.  I’m not going to go down the “you need to work on your self esteem” road, partially because I don’t think that’s always the issue.  It’s also not realistic to switch out your friends who gave you an honest reaction.  My friends didn’t like my wedding dress.  I wore it anyway and I have no regrets.  It didn’t hurt our friendship.  This is about knowing yourself and figuring out what makes you happy.

    Post # 32
    Bee
    5098 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’m guessing you dont have your “dream” ring at this point. So you’re upset about your friends theoretically not liking your ring. What’s your ring budget? If it’s not around at least $15,000 (but probably closer to $20,000) you’re not going to get the ring anyway. If your budget is less than that you’re upset that your friends don’t like your theoretical unobtainable ring. Does this even make sense? In jewelry the bottom line is if you like it and can afford it that’s all that matters.

    Post # 33
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    333 posts
    Helper bee

    It’s your ring for a reason…no one else has to like it. It’s a yellow diamond so most people who are uneducated about diamonds are going to think it’s ugly because marketing has told us that diamonds should be white. I’m just confused on why it matters whether your friends like it? If your partner hated it then maybe I’d take that into consideration, but your friends have nothing to do with this decision…

    Post # 34
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    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2020

    It’s not MY dream ring but it’s an AMAZING looking ring! OMg, it’s gorgeous! Honestly! I love it!

    Post # 35
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    386 posts
    Helper bee

    Not my taste at all, but it’s not supposed to be.  Your friends don’t have to like it (though I hope they were a little more tactful and didn’t just say the “absolutely hate it”).  If you love it, that’s all that matters.  

    Post # 36
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    563 posts
    Busy bee

    Why would it matter what I think? You are the one who’s gonna wear it!

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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    bride2bee98 :  does it really matter what they think? Its you who is going to wear it on a almost daily basis

    Post # 38
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2020 - Los Angeles, California

    The ring itself is gorgeous! Maybe they aren’t a fan of the yellow diamond? Anywho, this is the time that you look in the mirror and remind yourself who the heck you are and remember it’s about what YOU like! I have a different ring design to say the least– I had it custom made. When I sketched it on paper, everyone thought it was weird. Once I got engaged and began wearing it, I’ve gotten compliments left and right. Do you!!

    Post # 39
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    34 posts
    Newbee

    Don’t let your friends discourage you from going for a unique ring that is right for you. It looks very expensive and sparkly to me, not tacky at all. It is also very bold. So people will likely either love it or hate it, but the important thing is that you love it. You will be the one who spends the most time looking at it! If you want to wear something other than a typical white diamond find something that appeals to you and be proud of your choice to be different! 

    Post # 40
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    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I like the ring, it’s quite unique… but I do acknowledge that the unique vibrant color is not conventional and might elicit a strong negative reaction from some people. And while I like it and do think it’s unique, I am more hesitant about getting the ring for myself.

    At the end of the day, if you like it then you should go for it! You’ll be the one wearing it after all.

    Post # 41
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    Newbee

    I’m not a fan of yellow diamonds so it’s not my style but all that matters is that you love it!

    Post # 42
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    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

    Why does their opinion matter? They don’t have to wear the ring…

    Do you feel the need to find a dream ring that your friends love? If yes, why?

    For me, a dream ring:

    – is so lovely TO ME that I would want to look at it all the time 

    – makes my heart sing and I can’t stop smiling when I see it

    – makes me reminisce on my relationship with my partner and what we’ve built together.

     

    Bottom line: there’s no room for other people’s opinion on my dream ring.

    Post # 43
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    1049 posts
    Bumble bee

     It’s spectacular! I honestly thought you were joking.

    Post # 44
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    991 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Love this ring ! I would fricking rock this baby so hard !!!!!!!

    Post # 45
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    1481 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2020

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    bride2bee98 :  It’s not for me (a tad too yellow and my skin tone doesn’t love yellow) but I can appreciate it’s beauty. I was skeptical when it was in the box, but when the model tried it on, I was like, daaaaamn! But most importantly, it’s your dream ring! If it’s in your budget go for it! 🙂

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