posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Sounds to me like everyone acted very inappropriately. I feel bad for your sister having her daughters baptism ruined by childish behavior… who shows up to a baptism drunk? Does your Boyfriend or Best Friend not see that you’re both going to have to make concessions on behlf of eachothers families behavior (apparently) if your relationship is going to work? Does he care that his decision to cut one of your family members out greatly affects you? Are you OK with marrying a guy like that?

Post # 3
46672 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Both of you are being more than a little immature.  Have another talk about it when he has had time to calm down.

Post # 4
1499 posts
Bumble bee

It sounds like everyone is being immature here. I think eveyrone just needs time to cool off. You’re all adults, it can be worked out. You don’t need to start cutting family out of your lives because someone called someone else stupid. There worse things that could happen.

Post # 5
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Everyone needs to step back and take some responsibility for this sorry and silly situation. There’s absolutely no need for such drastic action. Your BF’s brother was indeed stupid to start calling people names. Equally, your sister’s husband might have handled the situation in a more adult manner too.

If your Boyfriend or Best Friend plans to cut people out of his life forever on the basis of this trivial sort of incident – and one that appears to have been triggered off entirely by his own brother –  then I’d question whether he is mature enough to get married anyway. Life will deliver all sorts of awkward situations. Does he plan to fall out with everyone who crosses him?

Post # 6
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

JGGH:  I agree with the previous posters there is a lot of growing up to for all parties involved. It’s a fact of getting married; you marry into the family too!

The one thing that sent some warning bells off in my head is the fact you are going to be married in 4 months yet referred to your signifigant other as your boyfriend more than your fiance. Are you really sure you are ready to marry this man, your fiance? 

Post # 7
297 posts
Helper bee

Does your boyfrend’s brother have a history of drinking and acting like this? …Assuming your boyfriend had no idea this was going to happen, I’m sure your boyfriend was embarassed enough by his brother’s behavior and didn’t need to get further insulted by your sister’s husband. It was wrong of you to not intervene or sitck up for your boyfriend when he did nothing wrong. I understand why he wouldn’t want to see your sister’s husband again- he knows if there’s any future problems, he can’t trust you to be there to support him like a partner should. You’re not ready to get married.

Post # 8
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I am not sure why your nieces baptism would be the time or place to introduce your BF’s family to yours. The day has nothing to do with any of that. I would be pretty upset if I were your sister or Brother-In-Law that you did that to begin with, and then the people you invited caused major drama.

Suck it up and tell sister and Brother-In-Law you are sorry for the drama. Tell your Boyfriend or Best Friend that you made a bad call all together.

Post # 9
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Sounds like this situation got really out of control. I would give it a little time so everyone can cool down, then get together to fix the issue. We all can let our tempers get away from us every now and then, but causing a rift in the families over something that can be fixed is not worth it. You are all adults (I am assuming), maybe you can plan a get together after you and your Fiance discuss your issues, and talk things out with those involved. Sounds like some apologies need to happen and an adult conversation needs to be had. 

Post # 11
48 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015

I hope he can move on. He seems like he is being immature. Im sure it will work itself out before the wedding!

Post # 12
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

You guys must be really young

Post # 13
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Alarm bells are ringing here and I’m wondering if your Boyfriend or Best Friend is looking for a way out. Only I can’t really see why this incident alone would make an otherwise committed partner consider whether their forthcoming wedding should go ahead. Has he given you any cause to suspect he’s got cold feet?

Post # 14
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Any updates?

This is one of the strangest situations I’ve seen on the Bee… You’re considering calling off your wedding after one fight that isn’t even related to your relationship with FI? Perhaps you should consider dating for a few more years before marrying, as it seems you are not ready to make such a lasting commitment. If you, as a couple, cannot handle such a minor incident, I’m not sure how you plan to make it through a life-long marriage to one another. 

Side note: I, too, am really confused why you keep referring to him as your boyfriend if you are engaged to be married. Are you just really accustomed to calling him that after dating for however long?

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