Post # 1
Part of the reason I picked my Maid/Matron of Honor was because I know she gets things done. She is my best friend and she is always really great at getting stuff on her to do list done and early. It didnt hurt that my best friend is also great at throwing parties. We just graduated last weekend, but we have had a few weeks off before graduation.
Ok, now it’s 4 weeks till the wedding and I dont think she has done anything about the shower or bachelorette party. I just dont want anything to be throw together! I have asked her if she needs me to buy the party stuff and get invites going because I am super crafty, but she says no.
Also, I have emailed and given her a list of everyone’s emails/addys/phone numbers several times and she still hasnt even looked at it!
I almost went crazy and bought all the stuff for my shower tomorrow just so I would know it would get done, but then I thought that would be passigve aggressive and I just need to trust her!
What would you do if it was 4 weeks till the wedding and there was no sign of a shower?
Post # 3
Is there a chance she is throwing you a surprise shower? If she is really good at throwing parties and usually very organized it could explain why she is MIA for planning the shower/bachelorette.
Post # 4
honestly- let it go, its up to her to do….
Take a deep breath- Im sure you’ll have a great party-
(she may have something secret planned! and even if she doesnt — sit back, have a cocktail)
Post # 5
@dotdotdoodlebot: I wouldn’t stress over it. I agree with the others, she may be doing it SURPRISE! style and maybe even wants you to sweat a bit!
Post # 6
I hope so, I am just getting miffed about it because you know you only get one shower! (well in my case)
Post # 7
Yeah, I’d let it go. It’s not like you are me and you have two friends FIGHTING over your shower and now they won’t talk to each other. I WISH THEY HAD LEFT ME OUT so honestly, enjoy what you have. I’m sure she’s doing something for you.
Post # 8
If it were me, I’d stop thinking about it. You can’t throw the parties for yourself, and your Maid/Matron of Honor knows that you want them; it’s up to her to plan it. As others have said, maybe she’s planning a surprise (but don’t get your hopes up for that…!).
Post # 9
I think you have to prepare yourself that there may not be a shower. It is not required and she may not be able to plan/host one for you.
Since you seem to want one, she also may be planning a surprise shower.
I think you should only be sending addresses and pseudo-planning messages if they are asked for. It can otherwise seem very pushy.
Post # 10
I only sent her the addresses because there is no way she could have compiled everyone in my family’s addresses.
Post # 11
Did she offer to plan a shower or bachelorette party?
Post # 12
Yes, it’s been in the plans all a long. 🙁