(Closed) Help! Am i overreacting?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Umm not at all over reacting.  He is DRINKING and DRIVING – that’s the first of a long list of issues here.  Nevermind the fact that he’s ignoring your feelings, saying he won’t behave a certain way and then doing it – he is in his FORTIES for fk sakes and he’s not having one drink or even two, but DRIVING WASTED.  I’d say you’re not over reacting.  Not at all.

Post # 4
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you’re overreacting.  Drinking and driving puts everyone on the road in danger. How can a man take on the responsibility of marriage if he’s not responsible enough to drive safely?  He could seriously hurt or kill someone else, and then he’d go to jail for quite a long time.  Why is he risking that, especially when he’s past the dumb-fratboy years?

You’re asking for him to be home at a reasonable time and to not drink and drive.  I think that’s a reasonable request.  If he’s not listening to it, what more can you do?  He has to know that it’s not okay for him to do this, and an apology is not a get out of jail free card.  If that’s how he’s treating it with this issue, what else is he going to use it for?  You need to know he respects you.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Maybe he’s enjoying the whole “feeling young again” thing – not an excuse.  If it were me I’d tell him he can either feel “young” single and drink every damn night he wants to, staying out til midnight or he can respect me and my feelings and be married.  His call.

Post # 7
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784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You’re not overreacting. I know I would overreact though…In fact, I’d flip my shit. I am all for my FH going out and getting drunk because he needs his man time and I like my me time, but if he ever drove drunk, even once, he would get REAMED… Putting his life, other people’s lives, his career (he’s a firefighter), future job opportunities, financial status, all at risk… for what?! Ugh. Livid, girl, I’d be livid… =( I’m very sorry =( Maybe in a few days, when you’ve calmed down, you can have a formal sit down talk about how you really feel about the situation… Which is what I would do if I could control myself from flipping my shit.. hahah.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Overreactimg:  I will say that I do always offer to pick him up from the bar. Always… I would get up and drive for anyone I know to protect other people from it. I don’t care what I have going on the next day, it takes a few minutes, and potentially hundreds of lives are affected by picking him up. I work a full time job and am in full time school, I need my sleep, but not as much as I need to be sure he is safe and he isn’t endangering anybody else… I’m like that with all my friends.

Post # 9
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3368 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all…

Post # 13
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784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Overreactimg:  It’s really sad for me to say because it makes me upset to see anyone break up, but I would leave Andy in a heartbeat if he did this. Well, I’d give him one second chance, and if it ever happened again, I would be out. That’s a dealbreaker for me…I love Andy dearly, but that’s beyond serious to me. Four things I do not tolerate: Physical abuse (even mild), cheating (even once), drugs of any kind (even once), and drinking and driving (I’d give a second chance, but only one). Just my personal opinion =) I really hope you guys can work it out =( I will be thinking about you..

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Overreactimg:  Yeah, that’s just a cop out, my FH does the same thing sometimes.. claims “Well I didn’t think you would” card.

 

I mean seriously. Come on. LOL.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@overreacting :I would not be ok with any of it. The lieing, the staying out late, the drunk driving, the marginalising of your feelings on the matter…
NOT OK.

no you are not overreacting.

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