(Closed) HELP!!! Any previously engaged brides to be?!?!?!?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

I haven’t been in your same shoes, but I’m super sentimental and would not want anything lingering of the other relationship on my wedding day.

That said – I would also not waste the money on buying the exact same dress, just because the old one was bought for another reason.  You could think of it as if you bought the dress and the other things for your wedding… and will be using them for your wedding 😉

 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Never been in your position either, but I wouldnt go and buy the exact same dress.  Maybe you should go dress shopping for fun and see if your tastes have changed and if you fall in love with another dress.  If not, and the dress you have is still your dream dress, then I would go ahead and use it.  Your ex-FI never saw you in it and though it was purchased for that wedding…. if you’ve tried and its still teh same dress you would to.. then its your dress and it was meant to be worn for this wedding even if it was bought for another wedding.

Post # 5
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709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i was previously engaged but never bought anything. he did however propose to another girl with the my ring. hahaha.

its not like you were married in the dress. its your dream dress. wear it! and hey, if he’s well off, why not buy a bitchin reception dress? lol.

Post # 8
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have not been in your position. BUT when I steped into my dress and pulled it up the first thing I said outload to my mother was “FI would Love this dress” So im my case, if somthing were to happen then No I would not wear it. But if you just bought a really pretty white dress and didnt have any of those thoughts then I would go for it.

Post # 9
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would reuse things that were just part of the plan. it’s not like you’ve been married in the dress before. if you love it you love it

Post # 10
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you found the dress that you love, based on your personal style and it is the vision of what you want for your perfect day, then it has no link to the past Fiance.

I think it would be lovely if you kept the dress, and if you have to retain the symbolism in some way, may it be a reminder that all life’s trials and challenges have led you to this moment where you are marrying the perfect man for you in the perfect vision of beauty and leave it at that.

Congratulations, and don’t let the little things like dress/decor create stress where it need not be. The important thing is that you are becoming a wife to a new and wonderful man.

Post # 11
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Since you didn’t actually wear it the previous time, it is fine either way. I would wear it.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@misstomrsx2: hahaha. yes! i totally forgot about that. the funny thing is, i just saw her trying to sell it on Craigslist! lol.

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