(Closed) Help, anyone?

posted 7 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It seems that by having your wedding closest to his hometown most of your people won’t be able to attend. Could there be some sort of compromise to have the wedding half-way between both hometowns. I’m sure you would like to have your friends there too. Would they attend if you did it half-way?

Another option is not to have any attendants at all, he can involve his best friends as ushers, etc. I wish you bothe best.


From another encore military couple!

Post # 6
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Hmm..this is tricky because you have to look at those pictures forever.  Would it be possible to have it at a location where the people YOU want to come can come?  Because, as my mom says, it’s your day not his! hehe….

Post # 8
5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Any way you can fly out your best friend? It would fine if you had uneven sides, but it would be nice if you had at least one person up there with you.

Maybe you could put a computer monitor up there and have her skype in! 🙂

Post # 10
7689 posts
Bumble Beekeeper


I don’t have any sisters, and I didn’t know his sisters, -plus they lived far away too, and I wasn’t real close with other women at the time I got married. I asked my closest cousin to be my Maid/Matron of Honor.  Do you have a cousin you’d like to ask?  His brother was our Bridesmaid or Best Man, and my brothers were ushers.

Post # 11
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011


Honestly, having attendants who are your best friends is hard enough, you don’t want some random military girlfriends/wives… (That sounds bad… And not all military gfs/wives are bad, but many have BAD reputations, like  you mentioned in your post.)

I think you should spring for your best friend to come down and be maid of honor, and leave it at that for your side. Let him have his groomsmen, two will stand on his side, two on yours. A wedding is about combining lives anyway.

Also, making girlfriends ISN”T easy. But, once you move, make an effort to do it. You may find some best friends there before your wedding. You can always add them later.

Post # 14
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@anne626- I don’t blame you for not wanting women you’re not familiar with; I wouldn’t b comfortable with that either. I agree with a previous poster who said to wait and see if you can meet/make friends in IN once you get moved there who could stand with you.

I really hope you’re able to swing flying your best friend out for the wedding. I know it can be pricey, but maybe you can find a good deal with an airline if you book it early enough? What if you divided the cost of her flight 3-ways and asked your best friend and your parents to help out and each pay a third of the cost? That might make the price more affordable for each of you.

Otherwise, I like your FI’s idea of having bees come up to be in the wedding with you. :] That thought occurred to me, too, while I was reading your post. Maybe you could try to meet local bees when you get there? Good luck!

Post # 16
5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@anne626: I love the idea of one of the Groomsmen carrying a laptop down the aisle with your Best Freind Skyping in! 🙂 I don’t want to pry into her finances, but is there a reason that she won’t chip in to help pay to come to your wedding? Does she not like you Fiance or is she mad that you are moving away? I know unless I was in serious dire truouble financially, I could find a way to put away $25-$50/ month until the wedding which is 1.5 years away.

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