Post # 1
HELP with wording on wedding invitations! I have a different family situation from most. My mother is separated from my father (who is deceased) and never divorced, and she has cohabitated with my step-father ever since I was very young. Therefore they both have different last names. How do I address my invitations? I want to include both of their names because they are paying for it, along with my fiance’s parents. However, I have to admit that I am embarassed as to what people will think if it doesnt have the traditional "Mr. and Mrs….." b/c they never married! I know i shouldnt care what people think…but what should I do??!? any advice is very much appreciated =) thanks!
Post # 3
I’m not Ms. Etiquette, but my parents have different last names as well because one is remarried and the other is a dude- no name change there. I would say something along the lines of Ms. Jane Smith and Mr. Michael Doe along with Mr. and Mrs. John Johnson invite you…..
And this is 2009- no need to worry about what people will think, especially since they have been together since you were young
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry about what people will think. They may even assume that they are married and your mom just kept her name.
I think Josalyn’s suggestion works- just use both of their names.
Post # 5
Between my fiance and I, we have SEVEN parents! Almost everybody is contributing, so we went with "together with their families" instead of the more traditional naming approach.
Post # 6
My mom and dad are divorced (with differnt last names) and my husbands parents are still together. Everyone contributed, so we went with (names all changed):
Ms. Mary Smith and Mr. Robert Jones
and Mr. and Mrs. Harold Lee
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
Alice Jones and Brian Lee
blah blah blah…
Truthfully, I don’t think anyone will give the names a second thought. Good lcuk!
Post # 7
I put my stepmother on my invitations and she has a different last name so I said Mr. MyDad and Mrs. StepMom invite you to the marriage of his daughter…
Post # 8
we put "together with their parents" above our names. I didn’t really feel like writing everyone’s names as well as ours on the invite since I didn’t want it too formal. Plus my mom kept her maiden name when my parents got married, so that was just stuff I didn’t want to worry about, so I just did the together with their parents.
Also, my parents, his parents, and ourselves paid for various portions of the wedding, so we were all in it together. I don’t know how it goes if just the parents pay if it’s customary to put their names down as a gesture toward them paying for it….