(Closed) HELP! Attendance for a Thanksgiving weekend date??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Speaking only for myself, I probably wouldn’t attend a wedding that weekend. I always spend Thanksgiving with family, usually out of state, and I woudln’t change that to go to a wedding unless it was someone SUPER important to me. (And then I’d be a little grumpy about it.)

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I probably wouldn’t go. Thanksgiving is “family time” for me, and we do it all weekend because we have to go to both DH’s & my family’s dinners. I think the weekend before or after would be better.

P.S. Thanksgiving is always on Thursday. 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Thanksgiving is very much family time, and travel expesnses (gas, airfare, etc) are always RIDICULOUS on Saturday and Sunday after thanksgiving. Traffic is also usually a mess if guests are driving. I think you should change your date.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I probably wouldn’t attend a Thanksgiving wedding that I had to travel out of town for. We get so little time to spend with family as it is, I wouldn’t cut a family visit short for a wedding unless it was someone SUPER important. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i think it may be a lot to ask of your friends and family to travel on one of the busiest and most expensive weekends; flights, hotels, etc. 

i personally would pick another date to accommodate my guests a bit better.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hi potential date twin!  We actually have heard more ” yes” than we thought.  Considering the weekend.     The pros are – if youre localands friends are going out of town for thanksgiving.  Coming home ( to attend the wedding )on sat rather than Sunday is less expensive   Also – if it’s a ” destination” for some families – they might make a family trip of it and come to town for an entire weekend   We are shockedhow many people are doing this    It’s also a long weekend so a lot of people get their family time in wed- sat morning and by sat night are ” familied out”. My fiancé and I are both from the area we are holding the wedding and we choose that weekend bc high school friends and extended family  would be coming home to see family that weekend and prob wouldn’t make the same trip twice if we had a different fall date.     Finally- we’ve gotten lots of discounts bc of the weekend !  Remember , those who truly love you will come to the wedding no matter what 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ps – regarding hotels – its one of their least busiest weekends of the year and our hotel is offering amazing rates to our guests bc of it :).  Also since its in a city people have mentioned being excited about black Friday/ weekend city Xmas shopping!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I would change it if I were you.  Thanksgiving is really 4 days of laying around doing nothing and eating leftovers with family for me.  I would definitely not attend unless you were a direct family member and then I’d probably be not super happy having to dress up immediately after eating 4943lb of food.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Coming from a gal who’s birthday always falls right after Thanksgiving (never on b/c of the day) people are always busy and want to spend the whole week, including the weekend with their family. Then again it IS a wedding and gives the family an excuse to have a GIGANTIC/FANTASTIC Thanksgiving and Wedding celebration! I just wouldn’t expect many non-family guests to attend. If it was a close friend of mine, I’d so go. A not so close friend, I wouldn’t bother because traffic and/or travelling is horrific. I would spread the word around and see what people’s thoughts are. Good luck!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m attending a wedding in Puerto Rico this Thanksgiving. She invited around 100 and about 15 RSVPed yes. I told her early on whatever she wanted to do Darling Husband and I would be there.

If your goal is to have a small wedding but still invite everyone – go for it. People that are most important to you will be there. 

Thanksgiving is a big holiday, people do their shopping on Black Friday and then its a four day weekend.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The 4 day Thanksgiving weekend has always been a huge family time in my family, and now this year, I have to spend most of the weekend dealing with a wedding.  I can’t say I’ve ever been more irritated to go to a wedding to be honest lol.  I just really dislike holiday weddings.  Plus, now we have to fight the black friday crowds to get our nails done and for the rehearsal dinner…ugh!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

I would not attend a wedding on Thanksgiving weekend, even if I was local.  I would highly suggest you reconsider the date.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My aunt is in healthcare and thanksgiving is nearly impossible to get off. I would not attend since its my birthday and thanksgiving I barely have enough time for everyone for one dinner (DHs family 1 night, dads family another, and moms family another its already insane).

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I most likely would attend a Thanksgiving weekend wedding. It is almost pretty normal in our family to have weddings on holiday weekends since so many people are coming from out of town. My uncle previously had his wedding on Christmas weekend. My cousin this year is having hers on Christmas weekend. My cousin last year had hers on Memorial Day weekend and my aunt previously had hers on MLK weekend. And I think 1 other cousin had his on Thanksgiving weekend but I am not 100% sure. So its normal for us.

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